Why is it that one person can not let and let live, they feel they have a 'right' to control ?

Question

is it a learned behavior?

or

is it because they hate so much?

Answer 1

I know this might sound weird.  But it sounds kind of like a needy person or someone that can't think of how to keep themselves entertained.  Love honey

Answer 2

I believe it is a personality trait (there at least potentially at birth, discovered more than learned later), part of a specific type of temperament.  In Myer-Briggs psychology (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-brigg... they are called "SJ."  In Colors Theory (http://www.positivelymary.com/Shopping/T... they are called "Gold."  They are also usually very judgmental and critical. They love rules and games and like to go by the book, are very stable, traditional and often resistant to change.

In life I have learned to identify these types and then keep my distance.

Answer 3

"Inner discord causes even the most exemplar of people to behave as brutes."

- zandanjos, 1975-2008

Answer 4

Personally, I think it's because they are "lost" in their mind.  They need control to keep from dealing with "life".  They are often weak and selfish people who have had a spoiled childhood.  Just my own theory

Answer 5

It was learned in childhood and developed into a comfortable, familiar way of being. This is called ego-syntonic. They don't question their authority or entitlement at all. If they hate, that is a tactic of their controlling nature, not the cause of it.

Answer 6

Yes, it is a learned behavior.

Answer 7

Hmmm....

I'd say they are insecure and like to be in control.  Insecurity stems from self-loathing and I think it can be learned, although some people just seem to be born that way.

Answer 8

That sounds like you are describing my sister buddy ......  it's really sad, it truly is ......  i think it's because they haven't found peace yet themselves and can't accept themselves precisely how they are..... it's because they try to live up to other people's expectations all the time without standing up for what they truly believe in and being true to themselves..... they are sheeple.....they live in a world of make believe ...  it's because they are afraid of simply being honest with themselves and accepting themselves & others ......  faults and all.

peace baby

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