Why is it that there are some people that put down single moms?

Question

I have received enough comments about how bad it is to be a single mom and to raise kids without their dad, but what I don't understand is that these people who usually make this comments to me don't know why I'm not with my husband, he dump me for another woman, and he was abusive towards me, I don't understand why there are some judgmental ignorant people that just talk and don't know everything, it is best to not stay in a relationship even if is your kids father if it would damage the kids more than it would help them. What do you people think?

Answer 1

Some people are just ignorant or stuck in their own sheltered little worlds.  I'm a single mom as well, and i'm doing a good job raising my daughter.  It would not be in her best interests at all to be anywhere near her dad.  He was physically abusive to me and threatened to kill our daughter.  Yeah, great role model he would be.

Answer 2

Simple... people who put down single moms have never been one.

Most of these people don't live in the real world.  They've probably always had someone to take care of every aspect of their lives.

Everyone is on their own path... it's too bad that there are those idiots out there that can't stay focused on their own road and are always looking around at everybody else's.

So next time someone says something derogatory about being a Single Mom just smile to yourself and know that they really don't have a clue about what they are saying.

Answer 3

People need to mind their own business on that because that don't know what situation you're in. I have a single mom, actually. And ya know why? Because my father died 11 days before I was born.

Answer 4

You said it right in your question.. Some people are ignorant and judgemental and don't realize that there is probably more to the story than they can see.  

I personally, have the utmost respect for a single parent.  I mean, I know raising kids is hard enough with two parents, I can't imagine how difficult it can be with just one parent.

Ignore people.  You know that you made the best decision for you and your kids. That's all that matters.

Answer 5

People are just ignorant!!! You are a VERY STRONG WOMAN!!!!  

Answer 6

Because we're basically sharing the planet with a bunch of idiots. Being a mother is hard and I can't even imagine doing it without my spouse. Kudos to you for getting yourself out of an abusive situation. Your child will be much better off because of your courage. Good luck and just ignore the idiots, I do..lol

Answer 7

the reason is almost always the same:  "he cheated on me", "he abused me", "he changed"

well, if you took the proper time to get to know your childs father before getting pregnant, the single mom thing would not be an issue.

Answer 8

Don't listen to those people, they're just judgmental and rude and ignorant.  There are of course some single parents who end up neglecting or abusing their kids, but so do a lot of married couples!  Being a single parent has nothing to do with that.  There are plenty of single parents out there who do a great job with their kids.  You definitely did the right thing by leaving your husband if he was abusive.  Kudos to you for being such a great mom!

Answer 9

People are just full of that kids need to be a part of a nuclear family to be good adults, etc etc etc.

All you hear about are the bad single moms, just like all you hear about are the horrible teen parents.

People can't think for themselves or try to understand and make ignorant judgments based on the media.

Answer 10

Some people are just stupid. Of course most people don't plan on being single parents. Especially in your situation. In my opinion it is much better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn't treat you right. If your not happy your kids will see that and they won't be either. Your setting an example for your kids. If you stay with someone like that then your kids are more likely to end up with someone that treats them that way too. So I think it is much better to be single.

Answer 11

I agree with Mezich. People are ignorant and blind and all we ever hear about are the bad single moms, teen moms or terrible fathers...you never hear about the good ones. So general populous are more apt to think the bad is because of the unfortunate's or bad parent's marital status or their age.

I'm a single mother...her father is a VERY nice guy, who is in her life (maybe not as much as I would like for him to be). . He doesn't really aspire to get married. I've been married twice, tried to have children the "proper" way and failed miserably. Docs told me I couldn't get PG, so getting, Ha! "knocked up" was furthest from my mind when I found out I was PG. There was no way after 14 years of infertility that I wasn't going to have this baby whether her father was around or not. But he stuck around and we decided, at least for now, it would be better to give our child two HAPPY and LOVING single parent homes, rather than one unhappy and anxiety driven home. I'd rather be a single mom any day than no mom at all.

Answer 12

my mom was a single mom and we lived through a lot with her.. some in not the best situations BUT we have learned more from lifes lessons than we could ever learn in school.  I was super close to my mom.. she was all I ever had.. so when I met my husband and he had the " Beaver Cleaver" (seriously you would have thought that about them too!) it was culture shock.. my mom worked hard for everything we ever had and tried to fulfill our wants too as best as she could. She gave her all to us and FINALLY at the age of 50 she was able to buy her first house, new nice furniture, not worry about bills and was happy... all ripped away by breast cancer in May.  So for single moms.. I have much respect for them and I am proud of my mom and all she ever did for us and I was glad to be able to help her as much as I could..  

Answer 13

Is this like the 5th question today regarding how single Mom’s are treated?

Just out of curiosity and PLEASE don’t take offense to it, if single Mom’s are as strong and independent as most say they are, then why does it matter what others think of you?

I’m a stepmom, I get that type of flack all the time. I stopped caring what others think about 3 yrs ago. Does it bother me what they say? Sure, sometimes. But hey, I’m a great stepmom to my 5 yr old stepdaughter and I go above and beyond for her. I won’t apologize for loving that kid with all my heart! So people can judge all they want to, I know in my heart, she knows in her heart, and everyone that sees us knows that I’m a great stepmom to her. So again, I don’t let it bother me….

I’m not trying to stir things up, just trying to prove a point. Stop worrying what others think and focus on YOU and your kids….