Why is it that when a girl initiates s*x...?

Question

Why is it that when a girl initiates s*x...?

They are viewed as "easy" and have lost respect from guys, while when it's the guy that initiates s*x, they don't get penalized. First and foremost, I would like to say that I absolutely disagree with this idea and I refused to abide by it. Guys are assuredly more sexually active then women (and of course it takes two). My point is that I don't feel like men should have that much power over a woman because of what she does sexually. Imagine what kind of world it would be today, if this ideology went both ways, where both men and women do not respect one another because both have been sexually active at one point in their lives. I am not saying that every men thinks this way, nonetheless, the majority does. I personally, don't respect a guy who's been around, but I know the chances of me finding one who has is very slim. What are your views on this?

Answer 1

The only power anyone has over another is that which is given them.  If you allow another to bully you into submission, who's fault is it, really?  Theirs, for being so demanding?  Or yours, for submitting to it?

Answer 2

I agree with you, it is stupid bullshit.

But it's not neccesarlily the truth, some people just think that's the truth.

I personally think you can sleep with whoever you want no matter what your gender is and it's okay.

If they're of legal consent of course.

Answer 3

there are no girls that initiate s*x. they may initiate kissing, cuddling, holding hands.

Answer 4

I think that it all depends on the guy the girl is initiating s*x with.  A guy who is not emotionally connected to a girl the first time he has s*x with her is not going to feel he is special or different from any other guy the girl is with, so he will say she's easy because he didn't feel like he put his emotions out there.  Or he may be so insecure he can't believe he is special.  Results are the same.  Guys who call girls "easy" and don't respect them may be more vocal about it so that is just the most obvious viewpoint. However, a guy with a good self image can believe a girl initiates s*x with him because he is worth it.  And he's not the one who will blab if she initiated the s*x.  But guys don't have power over women because of it.  Men and women just don't look at s*x the same way.  Women don't have to play the game, but if they don't want to, they have to find men who aren't playing it either.

Answer 5

Its not that I wouldnt respect a guy whos been around...its just their personality type that wouldnt mesh..

Answer 6

I think this way of thought is out-dated. It comes from a time where men were the providers and women fainted if they were in stress full situations. I don't believe that men generally are more sexually active than women. I think that s*x, as long as it's an act between to consenting adults, is okay. I don't judge my friends on how many (or few) they have slept with or when or how. I don't think it says anything about your character if you've had s*x with many people the only thing that counts for me is honesty.