Why is it that when a man dates women early on in life...?

Question

..even goes so far as to marry and have children. Then later on divorces and comes out as being g*y....his sexuality is never questioned, no one ever says "he's not a REAL g*y man", people just say that he was trying to fit in and do what he thought he was supposed to do. But when a woman even so much as sleeps with just 1 man (because she was trying to fit in and do what she thought she was supposed to do) her "lesbianism" comes into question, and people say that she can not be a REAL L*****n.

Do you think there is a double standard out there on this subject, do you question a persons sexuality if they have ever been with the opposite s*x, and if so is it women...men...or both?

Answer 1

male privilege it's everywhere

Answer 2

Wow,  I never really thought about it, but there is definitely a double standard. Men get away with more anyways.

Answer 3

I've never said that about anyone....

Answer 4

Of course their is a double standard. These things have developed because men were the dominate s*x in the early years of human life so their are things that were aloud to develop. Even tho their is a great majority of double standers that go in mens favor their are double standers that go against men. So don't worry about it and lead your life they way you want to because all that matters is what you think.

Answer 5

I can honestly say I used the think like that about men and women who'd lived a straight life because it was easier than being g*y, and I'd have argued that they were not truly g*y or L*****n simply because they'd been with someone of the opposite s*x.  But it was you who made me question my attitude and again I thank you for it, because I can now see how unreasonable I was.  

Yes I believe there is a double standard with regard to lesbians, and it's probably because there's a double standard towards women in general.  I may be wrong, but that's my interpretation.      

Answer 6

Yes, there is a double standard and it's ridiculous.  Given that it's physically easier for a woman to fake it than man since she does not have to get and maintain an erection,  I don't see why it should be questioned.  Also, some women are conditioned to think that s*x is just not that enjoyable for them, so they may not even realize that it's because it's the fact that it's men in general that don't satisfy them, and that a woman could.  I also think it's 'bruised male ego' syndrome.  Some guys can't accept that some women just don't want them.

Answer 7

Yes there is a double standard on the g*y/bi subject. Besides the example you gave,it seems that lesbians or bi women are more accepted by men because "she likes what i like,nothing wrong with what" or they think two women together is hot. Women are another story most of the time,they just think their L*****n/bi friend is "confused".  

Answer 8

That is a really great question. Although it doesn't compare at all, I *know* I am going to get weird looks from my friends when I tell them that I'm g*y. I liked guys (and they knew that) but it was really just a in denial sort of thing. I look forward to everybody's answer on here. One my my g*y guy friends was once head over heels over a girl- he spent 70$ on her to buy her some candy grams, knowing full well that she didn't like him. But he recently came out and no one has questioned it.

Answer 9

I don't question anyone one their sexuality, everyone has their own path, and it isn't my job to judge anyone else's.  But I do know that you are right, there is a double standard, as there are in most things in life, unfortunately!

Answer 10

Unfortunately, many of them are questioned, but you're right.  A L*****n's sexuality is more likely to be called into question.  Womens' sexuality is considered more fluid than a man's, which is one of the reasons that it's more acceptable for a woman to experiment than a man.  

What people don't realize is that there are very few "gold star" lesbians that didn't try out a man before realizing that they're just not into that.  It's the same for g*y men.  Personally, I don't question a person's sexuality just because they didn't know what they wanted when society puts pressure on them to go with the "norm," and probably ridicules their feelings.