Why is it that when we try and force change in our lives it often backfires?

Question

dr. bob: so there's no hope of bettering myself?

Answer 1

2 reasons. 1; instead of just letting things fall as they will and making the best of them we try and force things and that rarely turns out well. 2; best thing to do is to trust that God is setting out the best path for you as he says he will.

Answer 2

Its Called "Sod's Law"

Answer 3

because the more things change, the more they stay the same.

Answer 4

because

- the thing tht u r trying to change involve other people and they do not want to change

- u can not "force" something to change.............u have to go with the flow

- somethigs can not change.......u have to live with it

- maybe u dod not change it the right way  

Answer 5

Well my personal theroy

is change is something that happens on its own, in time.

So when its forced it makes everything thats

in order in your life, chaotic. Because change wasnt expected.

Drastic changes that is.

Answer 6

Because either you weren't ready for the change, didn't really want the change, or don't adapt well to change.

Some of us are creatures of habit. But remember that change is the only thing in life that you know is coming...no matter what.

Best Wishes To You

Answer 7

Because everything in our lives happen for a reason.  Rushing our lives is just like trying to leave out parts of "everything that happens".  

Remember:  Only time will tell.  

Let things go their own way, that is how it is suppose to go!

Answer 8

It's not easy to change much about our lives/selves/personalities once we hit a certain age...which is around 21, a couple of years after the brain has finished growing.

Each of us has developed who we are, especially in the first half-dozen years of life. And from then on, the Self we have created resists changes because it represents becoming something (and therefore someONE) else. The backfiring you speak of may be your mind simply saying "No, no change, I am who I am and don't want to be anything else. So do NOT try to change anything about yourself that's basic or important, because I'll just stop you and return, like a rubber band, to my former shape."