Why is it that women view good guys as a consolation prize?

Question

After a woman has dated and married the "bad boys", and has 5 kids, is divorced, has been abused, and nobody wants to party with her anymore, then she decides that the nice guy is "good enough".

Why wasn't he good enough 10 years ago when he first asked her out? If he wasn't good enough then, why is he good enough now?

Answer 1

These single moms of which you speak are looking for a Nice Guy to pay the bills once they can't compete on the party scene anymore.  They still consider the Nice Guy to be dull and boring.

The Nice Guy's recourse is to reject these women and do one of two things:

1.  Renounce NiceGuyism, get Game and Confidence, and become successful with the young, attractive, childless women stateside.

2.  Travel overseas and meet quality women there.

Answer 2

Admit it, this is your personal whinge.  You shouldn't generalise.

Answer 3

I suppose the same question could be asked from the other

side of the gender fence .... why would a "plain" but comfortable

woman be a "worthy" oobject of affection after a man

has crashed and burned over a cople of "trophy wives"?

Answer 4

I am in love with a nice guy and seriously to love and be loved is THE ULTIMATE PRIZE none of this consolation bs, thats her ignorance or stupidity.

Answer 5

Well, that is a stereotype against women, not all of whom view good guys as a consolation prize, or have 5 children to bad guys :-)

Answer 6

heh..i dont mind if he LOOKS like a bad boy...tats, muscles, peircings, wild dark hair, motorcycle.....( starts drooling)

but if he really is a bad boy( cheater, irresponsable, abusive..etc etc)...i want nothing to do with him.

Answer 7

Because it takes years for many, many women to realize they married their fathers.

Answer 8

Becasue we have to learn from our mistakes..alot of women thing there special and the "bad guy" will change for her after they find out he wont they realize that the good duys were better for her and to her

Answer 9

Many women are attracted to the "bad boy" persona and see those who behave differently as sexually unappealing.

Answer 10

Duno but whats why i stopped caring about people that are interested in individuals like that. I would rather not even be in the picture than standing in the backround as the "nice guy".

Answer 11

because now she knows better and is wiser

Answer 12

Most girls I know don't go for bad boys and then settle for good guys when they are older. Most girls I know understand that people are multidimensional. For instance, I can be a bad boy at the club and then a "nice young man" to my girlfriends  parents. I wouldn't toke up in class but I sure as h**l know how to pull off a great keg-stand at a frat party. I've been to cancer ralleys to raise money. helped with bone marrow donation drives, and I've been arrested a couple of times. Just because I know how to have fun and take a few risks doesn't mean I won't be able to do the things a more inhibited person can do. I plan on being a good parent, having a stable job and being a loving parter. My parents think I'm a great son and I try to be an all around nice guy. Like most people though, I have a little bad streak.

Answer 13

Why do some men date high maintenance women, gold diggers, b*tches and cheats????

The right of stupidity, is not limited by gender.

Answer 14

Because women think that they can change the "bad boy" into a good guy- they see it as the best of both worlds. But once they've been with the bad guy for a while, they relieze how dumb they were. Its not so much as a consolation prize as a moment of clarity over the fact that they can't force a bad guy to change for them, so the naturally good guy is now 'good enough'.

Answer 15

well your a 20 something your partying and drinking an the"bad boy" offers late night and what if's and sapience and excitement but your 32 you have 3 kids and a job where you bacily work in a cage your looking for STABILITY and the bad boy doesn't offer that

Answer 16

He wasn't good enough then because others were available then.  He is good enough now because he is the only one available now.  He is never good enough as long as somebody else is available.  okay?