Why is it the older you get, the harder it is to make friends?

Question

My "friends" ran away from me and said they didn't want me hanging around with them anymore. I've since found it really hard to make new friends

Answer 1

when you are like 5-7 years old you can make friends by saying "hi, do you want to be friends/do you want to play" etc and you can make loads of new friends every day by doing that, unfortunately it doesn't work like that forever :( unfortunately people change and move on, not nice but it happens... we just have to find new ways of meeting people and making new friends :/

Answer 2

Because when you are younger, you can pretty much talk about anything and relate to it.

But once you get older, it is harder to talk about things.  It gets more indepth.  Like what you do in spare time and all that.

I know, it is hard for me to make new friends because I don't know like how to start a conversation without looking like an idiot.

Answer 3

I had the same problem when i was about 15 - 16.

The reason we find it harder to make new friends when we get older is because were more aware of how people persieve us, where as we didnt care what people though of us when we were kids. This is never more apparent to us than when weve just been dropped by our friends.

Find something to do in your community, like football or some extra educational thing, classes etc. or some sport. I say in your community because when you join you'll find others there that you already half know, people you may just say hello to when passing or so, so there easier to approach and talk to.

Or if your still in school tell your closest school friend what happened and maybe theyll invite you round to theres.

Or spend more time with your boyfriend/girlfriend and get to know there friends. If you have niether a boy or girlfriend,im sure theres someone that kept asking you out, just go out with them as a foot in to thier circle of friends.

There are a lot of ways of making new friends you just need to sit down and think about it, you'll be alright in the end youll see.

But there are two things you definitly cant do

1) Don't end up sitting in your bedroom feeling sorry for yourself as one day youll wake up and 5 years will have gone by.

2) Don't meet up with people off the internet as you never know who they really are and there are a lot of wierd sick people out there.

Good luck dear, it will all work out for you, you'll see, just stay positive.

Answer 4

what did u do to them?? i sense u arent telling the WHOLE story bcuz...y would some1 run away w/o u doing anything?? so...what did u REALLY do?? if ALL of them ran away u had to do something

Answer 5

I agree! Everyone goes into there little groups and it's difficult to make new friends out of your so called circle. To be honest though sweetie, I've found it's easier to make friends out of school than in school. So maybe you could form a little group of 3 or 4 of you outside school. So when all the b*****s at school seem like jerks you can think 'well I have an awesome group of mates outsides school' x

Answer 6

I agree. I think most people now are so superficial, that once they find out you don't wear the "right" clothes, and drive the "right" car, they drop you. It wasn't that way when I was young. People wouldn't judge you by outward appearances, or income levels, they just hung out with you and all of that didn't matter.  

Answer 7

Because people grow and change. The best friend that you've had since you were 5 may grow up and become high school's greatest jerk. You have to deal with that fact and be open to new people.

Answer 8

Because the less you know how to socialise

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Answer 9

I dont think it is. I think you just realise that if you have only one friend, one real friend in this life... Youre lucky.

Answer 10

I'll be your friend. No matter how far, I'll be there for you.

Answer 11

because as you get older you realise that there is no such thing,

acquaintances perhaps

Answer 12

People get more set in their ways as they get older. If a person doesn't fit in with a certain way, they won't get a look in.

Answer 13

our society is still flawed with stereotypes and hostility.  as we grow, we are exposed to more and more influences of society that can affect the way we think and our values.  

we gain from our experiences as we grow.  and as we gain experiences, we learn to recognize the harshness of society.

Answer 14

They ran away from you? You guys cant be that old then. I found it the opposite the older I got the louder I got the more confident I seemed and yah.