Why is it the people prefer to adopt a baby or a toddler but all older kids get left behind.?

Question

Aren't they worth adopting, too.

Answer 1

They are absolutely worth adopting, but it is easier to adopt younger babies.  The bonding part of it is easier.  Older kids, usually need a lot more attention, because they have serious issues since most of them have been bounced around in the systems for a few years.

Answer 2

It is heart breaking that older kids as well as sibling sets are last to be adopted, I can however understand why families choose younger children. The younger the child the easier it is to influence their behavior and personality. It is true that the first three years are the most important and impressionable years of child hood. We are foster parents, but we only foster children 0-12months old for the simple reason that we have other children in the home. Some older kids who have been in the system have violent tendencies and we can not take the risk of an older child hurting the young children that we already have in the home. We wish we could take in every child that needs a family but we can't sacrifice the family that we have already built.

Answer 3

We adopted a 10 year old four years ago.  Today we are still dealing with issues and visiting therapists with her. She had learned many behaviors to survive and they aren't necessarily positive for fitting in with a family.  Attachment issues can also be huge with older children.

We also have two foster children that we have fostered for two years.  They were 4 months and 2 1/2 years old when they came into our home.  It was much easier for them to learn our family values and morals since they were so much younger.

Answer 4

They are worth adopting, but most of them come from bad homes and are in foster care. my parents adopted me at newborn and became foster parents when I was like 5. We have had from 3 days to 17 years old. They younger babies and toddlers who come from these homes like most babies & 3 year olds wont remember what there parents done or what they seen. however the older children have spent years of there life watching there parents do whatever horrible things they do and they teach it to them. Not knowing better the kinds just do what they see. Monkey see Monkey do. When you take in an older child your usually also taking a child who has been taught  to either fight steal or lie. alot of people can't handle it. they also have alot of emotional baggage that some people just can't handle.

Answer 5

most people are scared.. the older the child the more molded he/she already is.. although i have always wanted the older child instead of the younger ones.. that is what my husband said when i told him i wanted to adopt this wonderful13 year old.

Answer 6

they are definately worth adopting but i think that most people want to raise a baby the way they want. if you adopt an older child, they are more aware of the situations they are in and they have also been raised by other people. the older children could have developed bad habits or attitudes which some people don't like dealing with. when you adopt a younger child you can teach them from the start what is right and what is wrong. hope this helped!

Answer 7

Older kids are worth adopting,but it's easier to raise and mold a child if they are young.

my mom adopted my little sister at the age of 1 1/2 but we also had her as a foster child since birth.I was too old to be adopted because i still had ties to my real family and with adoption those ties are cut off.