Why is it these days that so many men abondon their children?

Question

Even when they are around, they are absent emotionally or other ways.

Answer 1

I don't know. A good man is VERY hard to find these days, I'm not sure why. I feel so very blessed for my Fiance when I see the way that most men are. It's so incredibly sad.

I don't understand why a man would choose to leave his children. I know that Dads don't have the bond that Mothers do with their children, but they should at least try.  

Answer 2

Society and the ever-changing gender roles.  I think that it's nothing completely new, since it's very possible that hundreds of years ago men were not as involved in child rearing as the women were.  Not to excuse men from their parental responsibilities at all.  It's appalling how men can just walk away.  But each generation trains the new one and it's a cycle of abandonment and irresponsibility.  Integrity was what we once relied on, and now most young men don't know the meaning of the word because their fathers never taught them, and so it will continue if no intervention is done.

Answer 3

This has been a problem for a long time. Alot of men still consider parenting mom's job. And even when they do help out, if mom and dad split, then Dad becomes emotionally distant. It is quite a phenomenon. This was discussed in my Sociology text, and the latter situation was called Serial fatherhood, but there weren't any real reasons as to why it occurs.  

Answer 4

It does seem to happen more and more now a days, I guess i was lucky enough to find a man who would stand by me and help support me and my children. We are happily married.

My father on the other hand i have not seen since i was 11 years old i am now 21 and he has never paid any thing to my mother and has never even tried to contact me, Even when i had children he was told by my uncle that he is a grand father now and he still has not contacted me. In a way i guess i am happy about it now i would rather not have him in my life any way.

Answer 5

maybe because men can `t take the responsibility or maybe they feel guilty that can`t be a good father far they son..

with give understanding, men will realize that they can take the resposibility & be a real good father

Answer 6

Well if you including emotional abandonment, then the figures probably havent changed much over hundreds of years. These days good dads tend to me more hands on where they used to mostly just be the provider. It is easier to abandon (physically) children these days as more people are having kids outside of marriage.

Answer 7

ever since "Kevin Federline" became the poster child for that campaign  all the men who left there  kids look up to him for that.

Answer 8

Bad parenting skills maybe?

Answer 9

The Government steps in to provide money to the mother and the father thinks to himself "Cool...I'll stay single".

Socialism undermines families.

Answer 10

Simply because the law is against them there ex is against them and they simply can't take the emotional stress !

Answer 11

Most of the time it's not the children they are leaving, it's the mother they are leaving.  The mother then makes the relationship  between the father and child as difficult as possible.  Most people aren't able to continuously fight with no end in sight unless fighting is something they enjoy doing.

Even when the father is around, the mother usually tries to control or interfere (intentionally or not) with that relationship.  Statistically, the overwhelming number of family break-ups are initiated by women, and the legal deck is stacked in their favor.

Answer 12

I have 2 children with a father that abandoned them. He doesn't call, write, pay child support,(over 80k now), nor does he worry how I am taking care of them. (Thanks to my mother, I have a little help.)

I don't understand it completely either how a man or a woman can leave their children? Cowardice!

I believe that any parent that doesn't take care of their child by abandoning them makes them cowards. It is a lot of work raising children alone. The biggest responsibility of a lifetime. Sometimes rewarding and sometimes not. But there is no excuse for running away from a helpless child. Don't think I haven't felt like it--shame on me--but thinking about it and actually doing it is the difference. It is frustrating and scary sometimes.

I do agree that it was bad judgment on my part for being young and therefore stupid for having children by this man. This is something that I just never thought would happen to me. I guess the majority of single mothers/fathers felt and thought the same.

I let my children know that there are invisible strings/connections attached from my heart to theirs forever and where ever. I couldn't leave them for a day. This love has made me stronger and therefore not a coward.

Answer 13

Although this doesnt cover all situations but i think,

atleast half of if stems from teen pregnancies. Most boys "men" at that age arent ready for such a shift in life structure.

I also lean heavy on society for s******g up the structure of the family. We are seeing the start of the next generation starting to reach adulthood and start to have families. A generation that started the sudden need for both parents to work, or the father needing to work a job and half or two jobs just to keep the family afloat. This does and can lead to non parents raising the children who are thrown to daycare or to someone else to raise, and the family value/unit is broken.

We are at the same time seeing the generation of "dont spank your child" coming around. Sadly i still dont understand the method of teaching restriction and correct social behavior without correction or discipline. (for those going nuts there is a line between beating a child and correcting them)

Music seems to belittle woman where as it use to put them on a pedastel , and the media only makes it worse by putting forward models that are so skinny its unhealthy and now we have dieting preteens and other problems. so men are being taught woman are b*****s and hoes, and woman are having their self value stripped away cause they arent 85 pounds and feel unwanted cause they are fat.

So why soo many men abandon their children, and dont show much in the way of emotion towards them, cause thats how society and other things teach them thats what you do.

My return question would be, why do woman have s*x that leads to children with men that have this problem, fairly sure if the man treats the woman with little emotional connection it will go towards the child to. so avoid the situation. Children before marriage is never really a good thing, planned parenting is much better then a surprise when your 15-18.

on a side note there are plenty of fine men out there that take excellent care of their children, and relish in the time spent with them, atleast i know i do.