Why is making friends so difficult for me?

Question

Not once in my life have I ever had a best friend of the same s*x (female) that I felt inseparable with. In fact I have had only 1 female friend that I felt I could even remotely trust. Most women treat me like I don't even exist.

I've been told in the past that I'm unattractive. Could this be part of the reason? Maybe women don't want to have unattractive women as friends? I'm also shy and sometimes I don't think I seem very friendly but I don't see why this would be a turnoff for all people. And to be honest I don't have close male friends either although they are easier to talk with. I just have my boyfriend.

Most girls act so s****. to me. They talk down and act like they are better.

What am I doing wrong and is this because of the way I look?

Answer 1

From what you describe it actually sounds the opposite (to being "ugly"). People usually react in this way because they feel threatened by an individual. These girls either think that you are prettier than them, smarter than them, wealthier than them, or in some way better than them. Even if you aren't, perhaps you act in this way? Either way, they don't like this (as it makes them jealous), and so they snub you. It's that or they are just bullies, in which case you need to find yourself a new crowd.

You have a boyfriend, and can get along with guys, so you obiviously aren't an unattractive person (not just in the physical sense, but in personality), so I don't think that is the real issue. Perhaps they are jealous that you have a boy friend, or that you find it easier to get along with guys than they do?

You're also not an idiot, because you have the insight to realise what is going on, and have come here to ask about it. An obvious sign of your emotional intelligence.

No, I don't think the problem lies with you, but with them...

Answer 2

well eve....believe it or not, being shy and unfriendly-like is a huge turnoff. if you become more open and confident, people will began to talk to you assuming you are easy to talk to. people don't like to talk to shy and unfriendly people because they are boring. just i guess be yourself and more sociable.