Why is my 1 year old screaming for everything?

Question

My daughter is 1 year old, she does'nt talk except for a few words. We have had her to a doctor and my friend is a Speech Therapist, she said that there is nothing wrong with her except she does'nt have to talk or does'nt want to! It personally does'nt bother my husband and I that she only says a few words(we also have a 14 year old!!If you catch my drift!!!!!!!)but the 1 year old screams for everything, she screams if she is happy, mad, if she wants something or if she don't. I would like to stop the screaming and have her talk, we do focus on teaching her to talk, but we can't make her talk. I just want the screaming to stop,it is embarassing when we go in public and everyone looks at us,plus its loud. But I don't know how to stop it. I don't believe in slapping her in the mouth and telling her to stop, that only teachs that hitting is ok sometimes. SO ONLY ANSWER IF YOU CAN HELP!!! NOT INSULT OR HAVE RUDE COMMENTS!!!! Thanks

Answer 1

i agree, ignore the screaming. if in public, you might have to remove her from the store sit her down in the car and not go back in until she stops. maybe a small reward for an outing where she does not scream. and if she screams for something, gently say thats not how you get it, repeat the word shes looking for like " cookie, please. dont give it to her until she either attempts to say it, or at leaste isnt screaming for it.  

Answer 2

babies scream

Answer 3

i  have a 4 year old son....and if i knew then what i know now, he wouldnt have been a screamer too! lol

She's testing you, she's screaming to see what you will do. you are her main form of entertainment. just keep that in mind. you need to do a total reversal, give her what she wants when she is quiet, and DONT give her what she wants when she is. when she is quiet, give her a toy, or those little gerber cookies or another one of her favorite snacks. when she is screaming, dont give into her, dont give her a drink, dont try to distract her, just act like she isnt even there. and you have to keep doing this over and over and over and over and over again until she says to herself "ok... when i'm quiet, i get good things... but when i'm loud, i dont get anything" i'm sure she's smart enough to figure it out!! i'm not condoning your parenting skills what so ever because tons of parents do this.. i'm STILL guilty of it... but a lot of us take big time advantage of when our kids are behaving. behaving well needs to be rewarded ALL the time in order for the bad behavior to go away. just keep at it.. and dont let yourself forget or not realize when she's being content and quiet. :-) do activities with her.. draw pictues or her, or play with her stuffed animals and put on a puppet show... when she starts screaming, drop everything and walk away. when she quiets back down, continue doing whatever activing you were doing! i hope this helps!!

Answer 4

Say to her, I cannot understand you when you are screaming. I will not listen to you screaming. Once you have calmed down and can talk in a normal voice, we will find out what is wrong. Can you give it a try? Patiently wait for her to calm down and think about this.

If she really seems to be frustrated, have you tried baby sign language? That way she is getting a picture for what she wants to say and can communicate without being verbal. Unfortunately at this age toddlers do get frustrated very easily, because they don't talk a lot just yet. Please be patient and work with her, even if it is making you go deaf. LOL

Answer 5

I totally agree that hitting is NOT an answer. Then the child will think its okay. The parents who hit their kids have lost control, and should rethink themselves before posting anything! Dicipline has nothing to do with hitting!

I think you should try ignoring the screams, even though she cant talk she does understand. So maybe tell her, i can't understand you when you scream, show me, or point to what you want. Maybe try teaching her about quiet and loud, make a game of whispering indoors and being louder outside. Hopefully she'll catch on. Good luck

Answer 6

Don't give in. I don't give my son (also one) anything if he is whinning or screaming for it. If there is something out of his reach or he needs help with he will point and say 'huh' and i gladly help him.

Also, this might help you in the future but i make him bring me the things he wants. If he wants to look at a book he brings it to me. I'm not trying to be lazy but i'm trying to teach him that mama is not his slave. I feel if he has to do a little more work for what he wants he will be a little more independent.  

Answer 7

Well, do you give her what she wants when she screams?

For example, you are holding her cup and she screams; you give it to her.  Why not try saying "bottle?" and see how she reacts.  Keep saying the word till she gives you some sort of recognition that that is the word for the thing she wants.  You can do this with anything.

As you go throughout your day, say things to her.  Explain what they are, use words.  Doggie, cat, sofa, cup, book, diaper, sink, etc.  The more you talk to her, the more she will understand and eventually say.  Not talking at 1 year is TOTALLY normal.  Many kids don't have any vocabulary at that age.  Just keep up with naming things for her.  She will start using words eventually.  

As she gets older (15 - 20 mo) if she still isn't saying words, I would be more consequent about giving her things until she says the word or at least tries.

Answer 8

dont feed into her screaming, look at her and ignore her, then after she calms down a bit say the word like drink or what not and hand it to her, I know that sometimes its easy to give into the screaming in public but just make sure you are consistant.

Answer 9

I would say if she wants something, ask her and then wait for a response. With my step son we used to ask him say, "Do you want some juice"? And if he would do that we would say "Yes please" and it's telling him what to say and he repeats it, or say "No thank you" and he learns to say that too. Just say what you want her to say and see if she starts to learn that way = GL!