Why is my baby's father so rude???

Question

Me and my ex-boyfriend (we were together 6 years) have a 4 year old daughter together.. he was everything to me. We started having problems. One night I wake up to see several text messages from girls (saying, "i love you" "baby are you sleeping?) He denied it being anything serious, we broke up, and a few weeks later I got together with my current boyfriend, a great man and really good with my daughter... I thought me and my ex-boyfriend were civil, he always asked how I was doing, and was happy for me.. he had a girlfriend and is still with her today... then all of a sudden we got into an argument about our daughter and ever since he's incredibly rude. He texts me the meanest stuff, such as "When can I see my daughter, u fat hoe?" and "Stop texting me you ugly hoe" and stuff like that.. also has seen me and my bf by my car outside and tossed a soda out the window, almost hitting me with it.. He sees her 2 or 3 times a month, and never calls to talk to her.. what can I do?

Answer 1

Sounds like hes got some maturing to do. Don't worry about it. Tell him to stop acting like a child and then maybe he can see his daughter.  Hes not setting very good examples for her.

Are you getting child support?

Answer 2

Maybe it's this new girlfriend?  I'm sorry, I can't really tell you why he's being such a jerk, but I can sympathise!  My ex is the biggest ar$e on the face of the earth! hehehehe... He's always been an ar$e though! LOL

Are there any contact orders in place?  Perhaps you should take it to court and get some official orders in place if there are none.  At least then you will know when to expect him, can form a routine around those visits, and have no need to talk to him except when he picks her up and drops her off.

This should at least make things a little easier for you, and he'll have no reason to text you stupid messages like the ones you mentioned, as he will know when he can see his daughter.

Keep your chin up!

Answer 3

That is because he is jealous of your new relationship.He may be with someone but, if he was truly happy with her he wouldn't pay you any attention.Don't push your daughter on him..He'll come around when he is ready..I hate to say it but the only thing that worked for me was an butt whoopin..I let my sons father disrespect me for years..one minute we're like bf's, next we're enemies..One day my new boyfriend was witness to the abuse and kicked his butt..Never a problem since..picks my son up every weekend..

Answer 4

cause mybe he can't stand yiu duh smart one

Answer 5

Let him see his daughter. It is his kid to

Answer 6

You need to sit and have a serious talk with him. Just the 2 of you! You 2 need to find a civil way to co-parent without any rudeness or hostility.

Ask him does he really want to teach his child to treat others the way he is in fact treating you..

There is no reason for him to be such an *** because he cheated and it didn't work out and you both moved on. I would point blank tell him what it is. Good Luck.