Why is my boyfriend doing this?

Question

my bf of 9 months is planing on moving this sunday night or monday morning with his family to las vegas he didnt tell me he was moving this weekend i found out by someone else he claims that his father said it would be better if he didnt tell me until later on well we've been talking and seeing each other everyday and he claims that he loves me but he's not in love with me because he's to scared to fall in love with me. i let him go on monday but he keeps making excuses to come over to my house to see me everyday. When i told him i would let him go he cried he has cryed everyday since but claims that he is ready to let me go. He still says he loves me everyday and hugs me and kisses me we still talk on the phone, he said by seeing me he feels like it would make him feel better idk how it would though. when i asked him his reason for leaving he said its something he just feels like he should do alone to find who he really is and to see what else is out there " whenever i ask him what he means by that he always says that he doesnt want any other girl but me" he wants me to wait a year for him which i wont do I LOVE HIM but i am not willing to wait for someone who may never come back. He is such a mommas boy his mom claims that if i really loved him then i would let him live out there with her. My boyfriend is 20 years old im his first girlfriend and his first everything he has been in my daughters life since she was 3 1/2 months old he claims that he cant get over the fact that she isnt his and doesnt have his blood even though in her eyes she is her father he said he loves my daughter but cant see himself loving her as his daughter. My daughter is now 1 year and 1 month and sits there and crys for him when he leaves and she always calls him daddy she kisses him and hugs him and does everything a daughter would do with her father. i dont get how he doesnt see her as his when he does everything with her, he picks her up when she falls he wipes away her tears he kisses her and hugs her he takes her to the park he does everything a father should do so why cant he see her as his own

EXTRA DETAILS: MY BF IS A TWIN AND THE OLDEST HIS MOM HATES ME AND THINKS IM A BAD PERSON BECAUSE I HAVE A BABY SHE LIES TO HIM ALL THE TIME TELLING HIM THAT IM WITH OTHER GUYS AND THAT I REALLY DONT LOVE HIM IF I DONT LET HIM LEAVE TO LAS VEGAS WITH THEM SHE USES HIM AND HES SO BLIND BECAUSE HE DOESNT REALIZE IT SHE RUNS HIS LIFE AND I FEEL LIKE SHE HAS BRAINWASHED HIM WITH HER LITTLE LIES JUST TO HAVE HIM TO HERSELF SHE SAID THAT SHE WOULD DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET HIM AWAY FROM ME SHE ALSO WANTS HIM TO BE WITH OTHER GIRLS AND SHE CLAIMS THAT HE CAN FIND SOMEONE BETTER THEN ME IN LAS VEGAS OR IN MEXICO AND THAT HE SHOULD MARRY THAT GIRL HIS FATHER DOESNT LIKE ME EITHER FOR PROBLY THE SAME REASONS

Answer 1

Way too complicated. Let the guy go. If he comes back, he truly loves you, and your daughter.

Answer 2

Way too long...

Answer 3

it sounds like a bad situation  , you might not realize it now, but its good to get out of this relationship

Answer 4

Get out now.

If you end up marring him you really do marry his whole unsavory family.

He has the nerve to tell you the mean things his mother says about you, what a jerk.  

Answer 5

gurl only ya can really decide for urself. nobody can really tell ya what to do but they can give ya advice and that is all. good luck and wish ya the best  

Answer 6

I think that he's stupid, if he's 20 he can make his own decisions he shouldn't let his parents make them for him. Tell them that if he really loved you he wouldn't just leave so suddenly the way he is. And if he wants to go see what else is out there and have you wait for a yr thats crazy. tell him you'll agree to a break for a month to try it out. And if that doesn't work then you're gonna jus have to let him go.

Answer 7

he doesnt love u because u have a kid.. who wants to be a step daddy?

Answer 8

ummm... the only thing i can say is do what your heart desires.. thats a tough one to think about.

Answer 9

First off, you will never win if his family is against you. I believe this is where is is getting the idea that your daughter is not his blood and he can never love her as his own. His actions speak louder than words and you are right he does love her as such, but again you are fighting a losing battle. Cut ties and end it now or your daughter will be hurt the most in this. It will take some time but she is young and will forget him enough to move on, but to do so you have to end it completely with him.

Don't rush into the next thing that comes along either, give both you and your daughter time to recover from this relationship before you enter another.