Why is my boyfriend so confusing???

Question

I'm 23 years old and my boyfriend is 27. We have been together for almost 3 years. We have talked about the future so much but he confuses me. I have even to told him that he confuses me. In the beginning of the relationship it seemed like he wanted to marry me right away and have kids (he always says that he wants to have kids before he turns 30). But sometimes when i bring up marriage he makes it seem like it's going to be a very very very long time from now. Then he'll turn around and make me think that he's going to pop the question soon. I told him that all of this makes me feel confused.then last month he text me out of nowhere and said that he wasn't sure if he would ever be ready to get married. He said he could see himself marrying me, but that he couldn't see himself getting married in general-he confusesme so much!!! and then the other day i was telling him that it didn't seem like he cared about me-and he said " well of course i care about you -i love you enough to want to marry you" He confuses me so much!!!!! I want to marry him someday-maybe when we are done with college (which will be in like 2 years). But i want to be more than just boyfriend/girlfriend. I guess what i want is for him to just ask me so that i can know for sure that he wants to marry me and so i can call him my fiance. but i don't know what to do. I kinda feel like i'm in a rut. i want us to move a step up in this relationship, and being engaged to him would be the greatest thing. oh, and by the way, he was engaged to a girl before-about 7 years ago i think. ....please help me. thank you.

Answer 1

propose to him. lol. i mean girls do it all the time.

just plan a real romantic evening and propose to him. and maybe tell him the you guys dont have to get married right away stay engaged for awhile...see how it goes. maybe after you guys grad. college he'll be ready and know wut hes wants,

good luck =)

Answer 2

he is confused so your trying to figure out confused person . . . thats why your getting confused hes afraid of something involving marrage but no1 except him knos why

Answer 3

Seems to me he's sending you mixed messages on purpose, so that you won't leave him to find a more marriage-minded guy.

I'm sorry, but I think that a 27 yr. old man who's been with a woman for 3 years should make his mind up about whether he wants to marry her or not (not necessarily right away, but in general). And if he hasn't, he should work it out for himself instead of confusing her with all the contradicting thoughts that pop to his head.

Answer 4

he might be trying to confuse you.. so when he does decide to pop the question it will be completely unexpected.

you could also talk to him about it.. not just say your confused. tell him that you do want to spend the rest of you life with him. you never know.. he might just be scared of commitment (he obviously didn't follow through with the prior engagement)

hope i could help :) good luck!

Answer 5

in fact he need to s*x this same just s*x, i think so

Answer 6

maybe hes having a double mind about you......... tell him how you would love to get married with him. i hope my answer helped you

Answer 7

Maybe he's just scared. Marriage is a really big step. And if he was engaged before and it didn't work out he probably doesn't want history repeating itself. I understand you're confused and this maybe driving you crazy. However, if you have enough patience what you want will come along. =) You can't give up if you really love the guy!  

Answer 8

He has a little issue with marriage, and you can't do anything about it. Once he pops the question things will be all clear for you.