Why is my brother acting like this?

Question

Okay, when i was 13 i went to a friends party and met my current boyfriend, later on realizing that he was my brother's friend. Now suddenly 3 years later my brother is acting like a real jerk saying how Robbie cant come over anymore because he's been noticing us getting closer than we should. But i don't know what he's so worried about because it's not like we had s*x or anything, and aren't we entitled to a little privacy every now and then. But what really pisses me off is that whenever he has his girlfriend over his bedroom door is always locked and i don't say a thing, but when it comes to my love life he has to be involved. Both me and Robbie have told him that all we do is cuddle and watch tv but he doesn't believe us. He even made me take a pregnancy test only to find out that it's negative. It's tearing apart they're relationship, and it's tearing apart ours. Please help me!

Answer 1

aww

thats cute

your brother is probably protective and he is probably extra protective since your dating one of his friends

he probably thinks since yall are getting to a certain age that your gna want to do certain things but you should just like set him straight and all and tell him that your not gna do anything and hopfully he trusts you

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Answer 2

I'm sure he is just trying to be a responsible older brother that doesn't want his little sister to get hurt because maybe ( I don't mean this in a bad way ) he knows something about your boyfriend that he doesn't want you to know or it is just awkward with other friends.. they might pick on him or something try talking to him. Hope it helped!

Answer 3

he's just upset that his friend is dating you

maybe your friend used to act a certain way around your brother [like a typical guy does around his friends] and that is making your brother flip out, because he's trying to protect you. just talk to your brother about it. if he can become friends with robbie in the first place, then im sure if you let him kno how you feel about him, he wont mind it as much. just show him that robbie isnt a jerk to you.

Answer 4

well hes overprotective and how old is he well wat i would do is i would tell him to leave me alone and to be with his girlfriend tell him that its not his life and its yours!!!!! ok thats wat u should tell him well he is probably worried maybe he knows that his friend just hits it n quits it u know and doesnt want to tell u to hurt ur feelings i think he is tryn to protect u from havin a fckd up life u know well tell him that all u want is to be w him and that yall need yalls privacy and to stay out of yalls businesss!!!!! hope this helped u!!! I SAY DAT KAUSE I HAVE HAD ALOT OF PROBLEMS LIKE THAT W SOME FRIENS!!

Answer 5

You brother knows his friend and is worried he is going to hurt you.  He may have talked about girls he'd like to bang with him and now your brother is thinking the talk is going to be action with you.  Guys and girls say a lot of things to their friends that they never do, it's just talk.  Your brother is afraid it isn't.  He may also be jealous of your relationship because he wants him to some over to hang with him not you.

Answer 6

tell ur brother to back off that is ur happiness n question him wat he does with his girfriend. i woul try embarrasing ur brother so he stops bothering u.

Answer 7

Sounds like your brother is being a jerk & you're right you are entitled to privacy, don't worry, tell your brother what's going on and if he doesn't believe you than that's just horrible.

Answer 8

WHERE IS YOUR MOTHER? Why are the both of you raising each other?  I can't believe she lets either of you entertain in bedrooms with doors shut.  This is crazy!

Your brother is watching out for you...but he is also a bully.  You need to talk to your mother about this and she needs to set some boundaries for all of you.

Answer 9

wow, your brother sounds really upset about 2 things, he dosent want his sister having s*x and 2, his friend is dating his sister. ow would you feel if one of your friends where dating your brother?  It also sounds like your brothers older than you so that also could be a problem from him, hes trying to protect his little sister. The best thing I would reccomend is to not show any affection toward your boyfriend while your brothers in the room, wait till he leaves or walks off, Its kinda like when you walk in the room and your parents are making out, you just dont want to see it, thats kinda how it is for your brother when he sees you

Answer 10

ask Robbie to talk to him about how he's acting. i think that he's jealous of the special time you guys spend together and maybe your brother feels like a third wheel. its also probably weird for him to have a friend that's dating his sister

Answer 11

I have a feeling your brother is older than you....and older brothers are very protective of their little sisters. Maybe you "stole" his friend from him, or your bf has been telling your brother he has been doing "stuff" with you that he hasnt....

Answer 12

Maybe your brother thinks his friend might not be good to you, perhaps? Maybe he's just trying to be protective of you.

I would suggest you limit the time your bf spends at your house when your brother is present. Try going out places more or hang out more at his place if possible. Just try to avoid your brother when the bf's around.

Answer 13

thats what brothers do.  they love their little sister and they are OVER PROTECTIVE.  most brothers are like that.  

Answer 14

just go over to your bf's house instead

Answer 15

he should know his friend good enough not to do nothing with u . How bout yall just find another place to meet up

Answer 16

OK ok..

He is being mondo protective and thats in a brothers nature.

I think you need to have a 1 on 1 conversation with him.

Ask him why he is being like that, but be calm.

Ask him what he wants and you can work something out.

:)

Answer 17

Well, just try to be respectful to your brother. That's how mine was too, they tend to be very very protective towards their sister so that's actually a cute thing if you think about it that way. It means he cares about you and knows how guys can take advantage of girls and doesn't want it to happen to you. Chances are he and Robbie have talked degradingly about girls, checking them out and all the normal stuff teenage boys do, so he can't help but imagine he does stuff to you even if he doesn't! Instead of driving him crazy with unrealistic imaginations of what the two of you could be doing, try to respect your brothers feelings, keep the door open if you guys are cuddling in your room, don't get mad at him and try to come to a decision on what the boundaries are so he can give you some space too. Maybe you'd feel a little weird if he was dating one of your girlfriends too!

Answer 18

Tell him that you are 16 years old (if i did the math right!!!) and that you are a young woman who can take responsiblities for herself, which im sure you do.  He is your brother, and cares about you and probably is sad that you arent that little-girl-in-pig-tails-holding-the-lun... anymore.  Since he himself is a guy, im sure he knows how many guys take advantage of girls and he just wants to protect you from that.  Respect his decisions, but tell him to respect yours too.  After all, you are both different, independent people.  Best of luck and hopefully this is just a phase!!!!!

Answer 19

well obviously your brother is comparing his own relationships with yours. he thinks just cuz he acts a certain way with a girl, why wouldnt other do the same. long story short hes might be scared that if hes able to have s*x with his girlfriend and thats what hes looking for then why wouldnt his bestfriend purse the same goal. hence the pregnancy tests

Answer 20

if one of my friends was going out with my sister i would be pissed too

Answer 21

im a little confused. is your brother older or younger? if he is older he is probably just feeling protective of you. guys think its their responsibility to watch over and protect their families at any age (especially sisters) just let him know that nothing bad is going on. ask him why he acts this way. and also think of it from his point of view, if he and robbie were best freinds then imagine what they talked about? wat do normal teenage boys talk about? girls, s*x, and all that. so your brother knows what your bf thinks about, and that may be freaking him out.

Answer 22

This is a tough one.  You shouldn't have to give up your boyfriend, but at the same time your brother feels like he is losing a friend.  Maybe if you tried to spend your alone time somewhere else where your brother wasn't around (like at Robbie's house), then your brother wouldn't be so aware of the fact he is being left out.  But also try to make sure that Robbie does still spend time with your bro and sometimes invite him to hang out with you both.  Go on double dates with you, Robbie, your brother and his girlfriend.