Why is my dad like this??

Question

its ok sometimes i guess he has never hit me before ..he just shouts and blames everything on me..Its ok when people are around he's sweet as pie...gives me money ..but when my mums out he shouts at me like i try stay out of his way but like when i go get a drink o something from down stairs it like what are you doing down here so on

if my mum hears it she does carry on and on occasion kicks him out

but when ever i do say anythink he denys it

and i just get done any way

dont say talk to him cause i carnt

he'll just get mad and shout and say im chatting s--t

advice??

Answer 1

sounds like he is an angry depressed person who doesnt realize what he is doing to his kid...

Answer 2

my dad does that too

talk to ur mom PRIVATELY like duh it has to be private then shell do something

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Answer 3

can you secretly record his rants? Then play them back to your mother when he is not there? Maybe on a good day you even play them to him, people don't realise how bad they sound when angry.

Answer 4

I am so sorry, it must be h**l to have to live with this. If you are old enough try and find some friends and move in together. You don't need this, move on and try and start a new life.  

Answer 5

just tell  him

Answer 6

is this ur real dad?

wow....cos no loving father would do that...

sounds like a jerk

Answer 7

Maybe you should strengthen your relationship with your dad or maybe he should do that to you. The best way to do this is obviously by talking to him. Try to get him some present in father's day or his birthday or speak to your mum to see what is wrong.

It's probably that he is upset and can only take it out on you but you as a child have the responsibility to respond to him politely.  

Answer 8

I'm sorry, that really sucks.  At least your mom does something about it when she does hear it.  

My advice...talk to your mom, and when you do bring as much evidence as you can.  Get a pocket recorder, and record several instances when he yells at you for not reason.  Make sure you say what you are doing (into the recorded) before you go into it.  And don't try to instigate anything.  Just let it happen.  Then sit down and play it for your mother in private.  Let her deal with your dad.  

I know what its like, my step-dad used to do the same to me.  If that doesn't work, just lay low and avoid him at all costs.  Maybe get a mini fridge for your room.  Good luck!

Answer 9

You didn't say how old your are or how many more years you have to live at home.

Your dad is just a shouter, a complainer so just get use to it and be thankful for the time your mother is around and he is nice to you.

You might sit down with you dad and ask him what it is you are doing to make him shout at you and why he doesn't want to be around you.

Ask him nicely but he needs to give you a reason he is treating you like he does or you will just keep on doing what is irritating him.

Good luck!

  

Answer 10

keep your head down and wait to get out. Good luck he sounds like a jerk.

Answer 11

Try having a chat with your mum instead?  Ask her why he is like that with you, and if she is unaware he is like it all the time when she is not there, she may be able to reason with him.

It's really hard to give advice when it appears your dad is being unreasonable with you.  Has something happened with you (maybe with your friends?) that has caused your dad to get in a mood with you or find it hard to forgive you?

I am not assuming you have done wrong, but sometimes things that don't appear wrong to us do seem bad to someone else and this could be why he is being so grumpy?  I am not suggesting that he is correct by treating you this way, or that you have done anything wrong to cause his moods, I am trying to put idea's to you why he is this way.

My first suggestion about talking to your mum seems the safest bet for you.  Let her know you are hurting about it and that it is affecting your life so much.

Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.

:)

Answer 12

Yup, he sounds like a jerk. Dont bother trying to talk to him. Talk to your mom. Make sure she's aware that this is a serious problem you have. Sit her down and say something like "I want you to know that this is a problem that is really stressing me out and I need you to step in" and make it apparent that a lot of what happens is when she's not home. If you just say "dad's being a jerk" she wont take it as seriously. She needs to know that this really bothers you and you try to avoid your dad as much as possible for fear of getting yelled at.  

Answer 13

Move out of the house and get far away from him

Answer 14

First of you dad is an idiot. I am not trying to be mean or anything but a father shouldn't do this.  Your dad might be having an off day or doesn't want to see you grow up. So ask your dad if you guys can have a talk in quiet. Don't take No for an answer. Sit him down and be honest with him. Tell him how you feel.He needs to let you go bc hes think its his childhood and he doesn't realize it.He's scared to lose his little girl his princess..... He sees you as himself as a kid. So listen to your heart and have the courage to tell your father how your feeling..... I know you can work this out