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Why is my ex's new girlfriend trying to get VERY close with me ALL OF A SUDDEN?

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This girl tried to get close to me to tell me ALL kinds of things, telling me she wants me in her wedding in 4 yrs., & that ASAP, she wants me to move to NYC with her. I'm like, "Wow! Ur trying to get too close to me, too fast!" She wanted NOTHING to do with me for ALL these months, & now all of a sudden she wants to get SUPER close with me.

So, earlier, she asked me, "Are you OK? Why are you so sluggish & tired?" I said, "Well, I'm suffering depression." She said, "That's God punishing you."

His girlfriend came out of NOWHERE & started talking to ME! She told me all kinds of "secrets" & asking me things about when I was with him. & she said, "Well, if you tell his mom, I'm never going to talk to you again." I'm like, "I have no way of contacting her (my ex's mom). This girl has a 6-month old baby with this guy. Probably 7 mos. now. & she doesn't want me to tell the guy's mom. His mom was very nasty & hateful, & he feels less of a person b/c I busted him in his lie, when he cheated last yr.

Not sure if he sent this or she sent this to me, making it like he sent it.

"Candy, I want nothing to do with you and i want you to stop dreaming of me. I'm committed to Heather, i'm gonna stay committed to her, and aint nothing gonna change that. So no matter what you say to Heather, no matter what you think you feel about me, nothing is going to change what i have with Heather. So there >:p"

Now, I'm the yuckiest person in the world to him. Funny thing is, I don't think or dream about him. So, she asked me 90 million questions about me & him, just so she could go back & tell him everything. & every 5 min. she says, "I hope you're not mad at me. Can you be my BEST friend forever?"

& when I tell her, "I don't know you well enough.", her feelings get hurt. I don't know who's causing the trouble. Should I tell them off or just pretend that they don't exist?

***I asked this in SINGLES & DATING, & got a silly, unhelpful response, so I'm asking again over here. I really need advice. Thanks.

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  1. I don't think you should concern yourself with what she is up to.  Instead ignore her calls, letters, and emails.  Personally, she sounds super lonely and probably nutty.  


  2. Simply respond:

    I have grown up; I suggest you do the same.

    We are not friends; I cannot contribute anything to make this a friendship.  Friendship is built on trust and being a good listener.

    Your response "I don't know you well enough" is a great start.  Now finish it with these final comments and close the door of communication.  She is not your friend...she is needy and sneaky.

    Best Wishes

  3. wow!! yeah i think you should leave them both alone.... dont have any contact with that girl.... shes just trying to use you for info....

    if you explain urself... and let her know that SHES NOT UR BEST FRIEND... she should get it.... but if not then u jus might have to tell them off

  4. Only one way to find out...ASK HER !!!!

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