Why is my family like this to me?

Question

I'm always expected to do almost everything in the house. (Laundry, dishes, cleaning, walking dogs, feeding dogs, making dinner, setting table) and more, every day. When I do, no-one says anything, since it's expected.

However, whenever someone else does anything that I do all the time, everyone thanks them and is nice to them. When I voiced this they said "It's only polite to thank someone when they do something. If you'd rather be nasty, okay, but don't wonder why your brother's nasty to you." Yet they never thank me, and I do these every day.

For example, my dad made cookies one day, and he burnt them all. And my mom was like ranting about them, and I said, "So you're mad at him for burning them?" and she said, "No. I'm mad at you for not making them."

Why is it like this?

Answer 1

Do you get any monetary compensation for doing these things?  If your brother doesn't help you should be getting something, if not a thank you then at least payment.  Try going on strike until some changes are made in this area.  Explain to your family that until appreciation is shown you won't be doing as much anymore and they can do things themselves for now on.  You are a family member, not a slave!!!  as far as cooking and baking, isn't that a parent responsibility anyway.  If you do it for them they can at least thank you for it and be nice about it.  In Several states a parent can not make a child do anything they do not want to do.  Depending where you live it might be the same way.  Check out the laws in  your area.

Answer 2

OMG thats happening to me 2. It will drive you crazy, just take a couple of deep breaths and relax. DONT GET STRESSED OUT.

Answer 3

I agree with beautifulbabette, explain how you feel and stop doing chores until they get the hint. It sounds like they're dependent on you, and until they show appreciation, take care of your own laundry, dinner, etc. If nothing gets done then they will have to get up and do it themselves which might be a good change. I would suggest maybe bringing up a plan to split the chores around the house, it isn't fair for you to put all this effort in without getting any credit for it. Having been through similar situations...remember it isn't your fault if they blame you for not doing something or doing something wrong. It sounds like you're giving it your all for the family while they may not be. Talk with them and I hope they are supportive for you! Good luck.