Why is my family so set on me getting married with chidren?

Question

Every family BBQ(aunts, uncles, cousins etc) I attend I always hear the same questions

When are you getting married? Why don't you ever bring a GF around the BBQs? When are you going to have kids?! Blah Blah Blah

I always give them the same answers.....I have no interest in marriage....I don't want kids until I find myself financially secure, or maybe adoption would be better....I don't bring GF's around the family BBQ's because they never last long when they learn I have no interest in marriage

I'm not a player at all! When most women hear I don't want to get married they decide to bail a few weeks later heh.

anyways is there any way to get these points into my families heads so they don't ask these questions 100 times a year? At the same time without myself sounding like a D**K to them?

P.S. my immediate family(mom, dad, brother) never bug me about this, they understand.

Answer 1

just tell them that your not ready for all that marriage kids blah. if that doesn't work bring a friend to the barbeque's maybe a coworker someone who is a female. introduce her as your friend. if none of that works just let everything fall into place. [[they'll stop eventually]]

Answer 2

go to the bbqs with a friend

or tell them you are g*y

or tell them you are looking for an old lady to maintain you

any weird thing every time

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Answer 3

I used to get something similar. My other half and I are not married, but we have been in committed relationship for fifteen years. We used to get similar questions to yours, particularly at weddings, but we've stopped going to family weddings because, well, we got tired of the same predictable questions.

My only suggestion is to stop going to to these events. Or, get a t-shirt made that says Marriage is for Morons and wear it, you won't get invited to too many weddings after that .... ;-) .

We haven't got married because my family are into the church wedding thing, and to me that's an absolute crock - I know too many people who do the Big Day and have a fancy dress and reception and all the rest of it, and within a year they're both s******g around. I mean, don't say 'till death do us part' unless you mean it!

Why don't you just bring a lady friend with you to these things, preferably a L*****n. Your relatives would be gobsmacked, they wouldn't really know what to say, you could videotape their direct reaction to her 'well, I'm g*y' statement for your own amusement later on. That coupled with your Marriage is for Morons t-shirt should get you out of all family weddings for the next five years at least.  

Answer 4

Tell them you haven't met a woman as wonderful as your mother and until you do, you won't settle for less. They won't dare tell you that your mother isn't that great so you should just find someone and hook up. If they do, deck them! lol

Answer 5

Just tell them that if you ever meet the right girl and decide to get married, they will be the first to know, and walk away.