Why is my friend having so many pre-wedding parties?!

Question

My friend had a surprise lunch party thrown for her by her sister, a surprise wedding shower also thrown by her sister, she's going to have a dolki next weeknd and a mendhi the weekend after. She was supposed to have a bachlorette party but it got cancelled. Why is she having sooo many pre-wedding parties? My brother told me the more simple your wedding is, the more barqat there is in your marriage. She comes from a very practicing Muslim family, I don't understand. Not to mention, I have other things to do with my own family, so I can't attend all of her parties.

Answer 1

i also don't know wat a dolqi is but in my culture we only have 2 pre-wedding parties.  

Answer 2

sounds to me like she is the first one or the first girl in her family to get married so perhaps they are going a bit overboard.  I agree with you that is too much.  It should be much simpler and believe me when its simpler you will enjoy & cherish it more.  

Answer 3

Sounds like it's her sister who wants to let her  have her last chance to enjoy life before being bogged down by dishes and pregnancies. She may also have various groups of friends she wants to see them all, they don't all have to attend every party. It's not all bad to give a bride a good time she can remember and feel special, because after you marry it's all self-sacrifice from there on.

Answer 4

i have no idea what dolqi is but there are 3 pre wedding parties. but i didnt do the 3 party pre wedding thing

Answer 5

hey! lol well this is typicaly just all because and culture and all for fun! I really don't see the point of all these parties either. A nikkah and walima seem like enough. wasting this amount of money on ONE wedding seems ridiculous!

yea a dhoki and a mehndi are pretty much the same thing !

Answer 6

Salaam sis! I believe simplicity is best however some feel the need to go overboard, my uncle is to get married next week and they are going through the same matter. I don't understand why they do this, but coming from a practising family does not guarantee that they will adopt all the matters, some pick and choose! Dolki is where they open presnts etc that is wrapped up in a bundle.

Answer 7

Bre-Wedding barties are fun  

Answer 8

My cousin brother's wedding is this Saturday/Sunday and they've been celebrating/having parties since last week, so that's 2 weeks of pre-wedding celebrations.

Answer 9

Oh hai honeh! i c it iz d p**i menatlity meh ownars family used to do the smae! y o y eh....

Answer 10

I agree that simplicity is best.  However, most of us get married only once...and some feel the need to make the most of it.

Answer 11

She's just happy.

don't mention it to her