Why is my friend obsessed with me! help!?

Question

i'm 14, going into 8th grade, and last year i met this girl who was in all my classes and we became super close friends [best friends] and now over the past few months i've changed alot, and this year is an oppurtunity for me to meet new friends and start fresh, but there is one problem....my "best friend". let's call her "Jenna"

Jenna is really clingy to me and i told my grandma about her and my grandma also said she sounds obsessed with me.

i get annoyed and irritated VERY VERY easily, and she really annoys me, and she irritates me sometimes.

when she IMs me i dont really wanna talk to her, so i kinda blow her off like when she says whats up..i just say "nothing" and stuff. and sometimes she gets the point, but she keeps talking like shes always saying "are you mad at me" & "why are you so moody" and stuff.

and we also just found out we dont have any classes together, and i am not worried about it, im kinda glad cause i can meet new people w/ out her there clinging to me.

if i try to ignore her or not talk to her much she FOLLOWS me like in the hallways at school and is like "Cassandra why are you mad at me, why arnt you talking to me!" and sometimes i just wanna scream at her and tell her to just leave me alone!!

she has TONS of friends and alot of people like her..people dont like her for clothes, money or popularity...they like her cause she has an awesome personality..except for her annoying-ness & clingy-ness to me!

what should i do?

telling her straight up will make her mad & start STUPID STUPID drama.

ignoring her will not help!

i need some ideas or tactics to get her to stop being like gum on the bottom of my shoe!!

Answer 1

Just show her that you don't want to be as close. Start hanging out with different people, and try avoiding her. Go to parties and hang out without her, and then she'll get the point. Or you could just talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel. If she gets way too clingy, though, you need to ditch her, even though that's going to hurt both of you.

When she IM's you, just ignore her, or say "I'm busy" and block her. If she asks you why you're mad at her, just say, "I'm not," and walk away quickly.

Since she has a lot of friends, you can suggest that she hangs out with another girl. Once she starts hanging out with other girls, she's going to realize that you're not the only person in this universe.  

Answer 2

seriously, just tell it to her straight.

:)

Answer 3

wow! this has happened to me and i pretended to like her but then i didn't even talk to her she got the point but... wait she's straight right?and if so then she may just think your the coolest person ever so just talk to her nicely and say "jenna" lately you've seemed clinging and its getting old is there something wrong whats up??? and if she says i didn't notice i was then say oh well you kinda were and just talk it out nicely