Why is my grandma being like this?

Question

So almost everyweekend I hangout with my friends since they all go to a different highschool so you know we hangout on Friday,Saturday and sometimes Sunday.Usually on Friday's my friend Maria will tell us all stay at her house when I hangout with my friends there's about 5 of us all together but staying the night theres only 2 others.Well about every weekend since the summer has started my friends would say "Hey nikki come to my house for the night,will go chill with so and so go to the starbucks and be back at my place sounds like a plan?" and i'll say "yea good plan lemme ask my grandma" so I ask and she'll say "you can go,but im getting you at 8:30 no later" and I ask why can't I stay the night and she'll usually say "because I said so" and I hate when she says that cause she says it EVERY TIME so I say "thats ridiculous i'd like to stay the night at my friends just for tonight" and then she says "well now your not going at all" which make me even MORE mad,so then I tell my friends and then they get mad cause they think I really don't want to hangout with them when I say it's causes of my grandma and there like "dude if it's cause you don't really want to just say it!" then I tell them no it's my grandma then it's a huge agrument from there.So all summer I didn't stay the night at ANYONES house.So today Maria told me about a show going on for one of our favorite bands,and it was the vocalist last show,so Maria said "Hey tonights Kendall's last show come with me and stay the night and will stay a little late after the show and hangout with some people" so I said ok and went to ask my grandma and I though after a whole summer of not staying the night at anyones she'd say ok,So I ask "can I go to the show with Maria,and then stay the night?" and she starts questioning me about all the show and is like "whos taking you? whos taking you home? how long are you going to be there? is there gonna be alot of older kids there?" so I said "Maria's mom.im not sure yet about a ride,maybe Cristian im about 100% sure he won't mind,im not sure about how long probably 10:30 or 11. and it's all ages so yea" so she says "Nope." and I ask why(without asking in a moody way) and she says "Your riding with some random 16 year old you probably won't be home til 1 or 2 knowing how immature you are and you'll either get taken,and probably drink and smoke so no" and then it busted my cap because 1.the kid I was getting a ride with is a really good friend of mine,whom i've know for a year now. 2.I would've been at my friends house by 11:30 the latest cause her parents would've made us be home by then 3.I know all the kids at these shows and NONE of them are over 21 and 4.I do not even smoke and I do not drink! and im very responsible so I don't know how she can even call me immatrue.So I said "well then how come I can't go to this local show but im allowed at concerts? there the same thing" and then she just walked away.

What is my grandma's problem? seriously? it's getting me so mad.And im going to help a friend babysit tomorrow and she wants me to stay the night and I told her I can't and if I tell her cause my grandma said "no" cause she did she'll probably think im lying.

Answer 1

I've got a few things 2 say here

1.) Really long message but i get the point

2.) I was raised similarly so I understand how frustrating it can be but u have to understand that thats how stf happens 2 ppl. Most ppl that do stf 2 women and children are ppl u wouldn't suspect. They are close 2 victims. If they seemed shady, they wouldn't be close.

3.) U really gotta cut em some slack here. They are tryin 2 look out 4 u and dont want bad stf 2 happen 2 u. Some parents are irresponsible. They are tryin 2 keep u outta harms way.

4.) U may feel they are overprotective but u let us know that u know one of the reasons. Ur only 2 yrs off the age ur mother was when she had u.

5.) Finally. At least they care. Ur not their daughter but they love u like u are. All the arguin u say ur doin, thats not fair 2 them. They really should be allowed 2 have rules in their own house

Conclusion... Ur young. U will understand lata. I mean im mid 20's and i understand

Answer 2

You didn't say how old you were and why you are in your Grandmothers care and custody, knowing that would give great insight as to why she is the way she is with you.

Answer 3

Your Grandparents may not have been strict with your mother and she had you at 16, now they are responsible for you and perhaps are over protective, however, I would not let you stay out so late either if you were my responsibility.

Answer 4

Explain to them that you are not like your mother, and that you do not want to make the same mistakes she did, and that you are growing up, and you want a little more independence

Answer 5

shes just old

Answer 6

i just think all grandmas are like that. my grandma could be your grandmas twin!