Why is my husband a momma's boy?

Question

Why IS my husband such a mommas boy and he won't contribute more than $200.00 to our bills and groceries + rent and I contribute $644.00. I care about him so much that is our biggest problem other than that we get along pretty well, but my family wants me to leave him but, I can't b/c he's my best friend and I love to much! I just don't know what to do !

Answer 1

Its because guys are genetically engineered to love people who are like their mothers!

So the more he loves his mum! The more he loves you :D

Don't leave him if you Love him!

And. Join your bank acounts or something. Because when you are in love. Your stuff should be his stuff and his stuff should be yours!

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

Don't see his contribution. You are a married couple. After marriage there is not "you" & "me", there is just "we". Just concentrate on your responsibilities n duties. Don't be wrong at any point of time.

Its your married life. He is your husband. Don't allow anybody to interfere between you & your husband. Just follow your heart. He is your best friend & you love him. In front of true love rent, money, groceries are immaterial.

Don't leave your husband. Coz it will be very very difficult to live without our love. Everything will be alright.

Just remember his love & love him n see the magic.

Answer 3

cut back on what you are contributing and tell him that he needs to pick up the slack if he wants things to run smoothly

stop LETTING him do this.  His male instinct of wanting to provide for house and home should kick in.  50/50 is the way to be

also, you cant stop a mommas boy from being a mommas boy...you gotta deal with it or leave it alone.  Let him enjoy the time he has with his momma because I know too many mothers who WISH their sons would call them

Answer 4

In my relationship we contribute a lot of things 50% equally unless one of us is having trouble at the time. But we are both generous and if he is taking advantage of you that is wrong.

Why is your husband only contributing $200. If your husband isn't living up to his responsibilities then you should tell him to shape up or you are going to move out. Is he spending all of his money on his mother? Is that the problem? What does he do for a living to make so little? What if you were going to have kids one day? $200 won't even cover the grocery bill.

Answer 5

communication

~MeL~

Answer 6

I had a "mommas boy" before

I promised myself I'd never do that again ,

theyre thee worst .

Answer 7

If you value yourself as a person, then you have to see your relationship for what it is.  Listen to what he is "telling" you with his actions and what it REALLY means.  As well as have some open honest communication with him, if money and contribution is an important point for you then really bring it up, have the discussion and make some decisions.  If in the end it is that he isn't ready or prepared to be a part of a working relationship then that means it is time to stand up for you and leave.  Don't compromise yourself as it will only make things worse down the road for your relationship.  

Answer 8

I'm thinking because he CAN be. However, you are the one who chose him, so maybe an attitude adjustment is in order.

It's a good thing that a man loves his mother. I would worry if you were treating him as your son, though. He needs a wife, not 'another' mom.

Answer 9

Do you earn three times what he does?

If that is the case I can see the point on being on equitable par. If not then I think he is not being fair and I would lower my contribution to his level see how he feels.

Seriously this is not fair if you re his 'keeper' and he has all the play money. No matter how much you love him then you have to see that he really is a  user and being controlling He is stringing you along and controls the situation.

That, is a red flag. Besides can't is a word you should not use. Leaving would be hard yes, but not impossible. So it is not can't but won't as it would hurt too much. The latter is your choice, but then accept the consequences of your choice as he will not change.

PS the joint account thing is not a bad set up. We have that but I know his income and he knows mine. We are open about the financials and we look after each other. De to the fact that we each had our own banks already we kept it that way Our joint one is at a third bank