Why is my husband acting this way?

Question

Separted May 31- he lives with his mom. Barely sees our almost 16 month old son. Barely pays any child support. Said now he never loved me or our son and hates his whole family. Used to never drink party, says thats all he does now (his mom says he's almost always home, beside work and school). I wrote him an email telling him the attorney's fees for a divorce and what will be expected of him by this coming week. Now, I see he deleted all our sons photos off his MySpace and deleted me off his list completely. He had said there is no relationship, its unfixable, etc. But when I bring up divorce he acts stupid and raises his voice and says "I dont wanna talk about it" or "I said change the subject". His mom said he says he doesnt want a divorce.

Then why is he treating me like garbage? Acting out online? Not responding to my texts, calls, emails, messages to his relatives about a divorce, etc. He doesn't love my son and I, durh!

Answer 1

sounds like he is

just go on with the divorce sounds like he is no longer intersted in you at all

and move on from there

Answer 2

i think its a psychological problem he has. he might still care for you but just wants to announce he hates you. some people are twisted. my advice is dont waste any more time with him

Answer 3

Who cares what he is doing with this other girl... don't act childish by posting stupid notes on MySpace about him...why would you care?  He obviously doesn't give a rats as* about you or his son.  You should want to be free and clear of him.  Proceed with your divorce.. there is no way he can stop it.  Get him out of your life.

Answer 4

You got a better someone to think about than that guy, you have to think about your son, since your ex is not being a man and confront the situation you have to be a woman and stop fighting over someone who does not even deserve your attention and direct it to your son.

Answer 5

He's so damaged for whatever reasons. His esteem and confidence are shot. He probably doesn't feel to great about himself right now. He's lost his wife and child, he's stuck at home with mom. It's easier for him to hate you and your child and the rest of the family than for him to hate himself.

You can't do anything for him, if he had it together, he wouldn't behave like this, and you'd probably be with him still.  

Answer 6

Sic your attorney on him. Your attorney will know how to handle him.  

Answer 7

I don't know why he behaves like he is but its possible he's a chubby chaser as well as many other things like irresponsible, a real bargain basement deal. Stop trying. What do you want? Does it matter what he wants when it comes to how you are going to live your life and how your son is going to get through his life. This guy is a real beast I think. Let him suffer the consequences and get on with living.

Answer 8

Grow up and have some dignity.

Let him be the childish one.

Answer 9

you use the phrase "durh" .. stop and think about this one.. b./c it is a great big one on your part if you don't  get rid of him.. stop acting out on line it could come back and bite you in the *ss ...  

Answer 10

He is just being a male and he's hurt, so give him time and he will begin to see reason. Leave the divorce thing go for a month and let things cool off.