Why is my husband always tired ?

Question

my husband has just turned 40, he is slightly overweight (BMI 27) but not obese. just recently he is constantly tired and lethargic and has gone off s*x completeley (says he just doesn't feel like it) he has taken to going back to bed for an hours sleep during the day but is still always tired.

he has cut down on drinking and smoking to see if this makes any difference but its not getting any better, i'm trying to pursuade him to go to the Dr but not having any success.

does anyone have any advice as to a) what could be causing it all or b) how to convince him to go to the docs.

i'm starting to worry now as he has changed so much over the last couple of months.

thanks in advance for your help x

Answer 1

He could be slightly depressed, and being a man will most definately not admit this.  He certainly has all the symptoms of mild depression, whether is is the fact that he has just turned 40 (you wouldn't have mentioned that if you didnt think it was an issue)  

or more simply just a virus.  They can take months to get out of your system and can totally knock you off your feet without feeling particularly ill. A virus cant be treated with antibiotics and the dr will just tell you to wait it out unfortunately

I dont think there is any need to rush to the dr's if he doesn't want to - if he was genuinely worried he would go!

I hope he feels better soon :)

Answer 2

There could be a number of different reasons why he's feeling like this, but you're right, his doctor is the only one that can make any sort of diagnosis.

I am by no means suggesting reliable options here, I'm not a doctor, but there's a few options you could research yourself, just to give yourself a bit of help understanding what's going on.

*Fibromyalgia.

*ME.

*Stress at work.

*Depression.

*Nutrition deficiancy (B vits, Iron etc - look into all the energy giving nutrients).

*Start of midlife crisis???? Your never know?

*Hormonal changes - this does happen in men and can have quite an effect on mood and energy.

You need to carry on supporting him, but still make it perfectly clear that you will not tolerate being treated badly because of his tiredness or low moods. There's two of you involved in this; hopefully he'll be able to involve you and you'll be able to work through it together. Eventually, he might realise by himself that a visit to his doctor will help him feel better.

Good luck.

Answer 3

A couple of things that affected me, starting around that age were (initially) an under active thyroid gland which, by itself, can cause ALL the things you described plus mood change/depression.  That went undiagnosed until I become badly overweight, very depressed and suffering from obstructive sleep apnoea - so I now have to use a 'pump' to keep me breathing properly at night.  The fight-back is crushing so I strongly advise anyone not to leave it too late to seek a medical opinion.  If you husband is anything like me, he feels bad about his inability to exercise and humiliated by his reduced libido so he doesn't WANT to talk to anyone about it.  He needs a lot of support from you actually get it sorted out.  He is not alone.  There are many of us.

Answer 4

is he loyal ? just wondering

Answer 5

If he is so stubborn not to go to the Dr.Can't you ask the Dr to pay him a house call.And have him checked out

Would not let this go on and on:explain it to the assistent.

Maybe this helped you:I do hope so.

Where I live:in Holland Dr's do house calls.

Hang in there girl:

Regards:Planets.

Answer 6

You really need to get the fellow to see a doctor. I suffered from Glandular fever a few years ago and it makes you feel very similar to the way you've described your husband. And unfortunatley it's quite easy to catch. Some people will have it and suffer nothing worse than the symptoms of a cold, and then, (purely through the air they breathe), pass it onto someone who has a far worse time of it.

The fact he's trying things such as giving up smoking and booze, is a good sign, and shows he wants to get over this, but he really needs to get to the doctors. It also could be stress.

Best of luck.

Answer 7

diabetes?

Answer 8

give to him lots of sea food .

Answer 9

it maybe a low thyroid, just get the doctor to check him over

good luck

Answer 10

my hubbys the same,, so typical,,he needs a blood test, make sure he eats lots of healthy food, eating c**p makes you lethargic

Answer 11

Sometimes you have to put pressure on someone for their own good. This could have any number of causes from serious (thyroid disease, diabetes, heart disease etc) to less serious (post-viral). As a doctor, I think you need to insist that he goes for a check up. Tell him you're really worried that you'll be left a widow if he doesn't (I know that's over the top but gentle persuasion has got you nowhere). Make an appointment for him and, preferably, go with him to make sure he gives the GP the full story. Some blood tests and a quick but thorough examination should rule out the more serious things. Tackle him tonight. Say you won't give up until he goes, so he'll have no choice if he wants a quiet life.

Answer 12

sounds bad enough for him to be seen.  without knowing moreit's hard to speculate, could be depression or just tired from over work

Answer 13

Why do men hate going to the doc`s cause they think it is not macho to go and tell another man their problems.  He really must go and get checked out.  The doc will probably do blood tests as he could have a thyroid problem, he may be anaemic, may just be something which is very easy remedied. Even try and get him to look up his symptoms on the internet, that might just give him the push to go and see the docs if he thinks that it may be something simple to fix.

Hope he gets well soon.

Answer 14

them you look for someone xxxx