Why is my husband so bossy?

Question

He is always telling me what to do like I am some child. He is a boss at work, so I think that is part of the problem. I don't like being treated like a child. How can I get him to stop?

Answer 1

When he tells you to do something, say, "You're not the boss of me."  Yes, it's silly and sounds childlike.  But thinking you can boss another person around is also childish.  If you don't like the thought that this could antagonize him, another excellent alternative when he tells you to do something is to say, "No thank you."  Say it pleasantly, but don't hesitate to repeat it if he repeats his command.

Answer 2

Talk to him.

The I feel sentences.

Not why do you do this or that

Or

You always do this or that.

Answer 3

Sounds good.

Answer 4

He is CONTROLLING and  CONTROLLING MEN ARE ABUSIVE men.  Control is emotional abuse.  He and you both need some serious councling-  you need to get help from a center for abused women and children- educate yourself now!

Answer 5

Question is, why do you allow him to treat you this way? He does it because you let it happen and do what he tells you to. That's not the way a marriage works. You have to tell him straight out that you don't like it and you would like him to treat you more like his wife than one of his employees.

Answer 6

It seems that you agree to everything he tells you, be strong and tell him how you feel let him know that you have a mind of your own and know when things need to be taken care of.  if you let it go on he might never stop, when you first met did you go along with everything he said, did you have an opinion in anything, if not, then thats your problem, but its okay you still have time to talk to him, tell him how you feel.

Answer 7

He needs to realise you are not an employee of his but an equal partner and as such should not talk to you like you were inferior to him.

Discussion is always the best thing and if you dont want to do something then dont do it, I am sure this would be the stance that some men would take if their wife told them what to do all the time.

Let him know how you feel, maybe he just cant leave work behind when he comes home.

Good luck, and dont forget to bow when he walks through the door - lol.

Answer 8

Tell him you didn't sign up to be his employee & if things remain the same, you are formally requesting Vacation time - paid. Pack your bags and take a weekend to go somewhere without him. When you return, if he has any problems with what you've done, then tell him to  fire you.

Answer 9

I might think that there were tell-tale signs of bossiness prior to marriage and true to case whatever behavior seen in glimpses before marriage goes into full bloom after we say - I do.

Sometimes what we project to others is redirected back to us. In other words, if I appear to need for other people to "tell me what to do", they can become conditioned to interact with me this way.

I might suggest that when a situation of bossiness next occurs that you clearly express yourself - as soon as the words have come out of his mouth using your love language. Like, honey I heard what you just expressed, however ... Not that you are going t*t for tat, but you are calmly but firmly expressing your dislike for this kind of interaction.

Also, in marriage there are strengths that both parties possess.  Determine the strengths that you bring to your marriage and purpose to continue to grow stronger in them.

Answer 10

You can't.  He is who he is and you knew that before you got married.  You made the wrong decision.  If you don't have children I suggest you leave him and find someone who treats you as an adult.

Answer 11

Most men were raised to be strong and in control. Would you rather him wear and apron and ask you what is every move should be?

Answer 12

honey please go on strike. if you let him treat you like a child he will.you are the CEO of the home, tell him you don't go to his job and boss him around, so don't do it at home.good luck hon.

Answer 13

My husband is bossy too.

I think it's because he is Hispanic.

Answer 14

Tell him how you feel and have a long talk.  Say it's makes me feel like a child when you talk to me that way.  Please stop.