Why is my mom acting like I'm still a baby

Question

my mom won't let me go to my friend's house just cuz he's 20 and in college....I'm 15 I'm not a baby he's a nice guy what's the big deal?? she let us go to the mall and the movies and out to dinner once reluctantly but now she says I can't ever talk to him again why not???

And she got all pissed cuz he sent me a letter tellinng me that he loves and cares for me. and wants to make me feel good ..she shouldn't have read it....I admittedf to her that we did kiss and hug alot....and she was like " watch and see what will happen to him if he comes near you again" idk what she would do....

she even let him pick me up from school so why doesn't she trust me to go to his house

he's one of my only true friends ppl at school don't like me and he makes me feel better when he holds me and talks to me he's really sweet she never understands anything

btw I asked this b4 but didn't get much help... It didn't seem like anyone understood

Answer 1

You are a child and he is a grown man.

Why does anything else have to be said?

That is, other than your mom needs her head examined

Answer 2

1) she doesn't want you to grow up

2) In many cases like this the endings haven't been very good

Stop freaking out about what your mom thinks. Try hiding things better and you won't have to deal with her anymore. But just remember that if something bad did happen that it would make it that much more difficult to talk to her about it.

Answer 3

I am a mom and have sons in their 20s.  From the boy's mother's point of view - I would be throwing a fit.  If anything happened to you, he could be held liable for rape by your parents and go to jail.  Even if he avoided jail time - he could wind up having to register as a s*x offender in most states.  Do you realize the danger you are putting him in or do you just not care?

Answer 4

Your mom loves you and wants to protect you :)

It only takes ONE mistake to see you in the hospital or worse....

She needs to press charges on him or get BIG BROTHER'S BAT.....

Answer 5

Mom is the boss, so listen to her*

Answer 6

forget about your mom for a sec....don't you yourself think even a little bit that this is a strange thing ? ....I can understand you at 15 wanting to be with him...but a man of 20 has so many things he can do.. and so many places he can go...that it doesn't make sense that he would have much in common with you........maybe your mom can see a loser a little sooner than you.

Answer 7

Er...because you are a BABY....you are her baby and you are still a child.  That man is a SICK PERVERT to be kissing/hugging/loving on a 15yr old.

Listen to your mother.  Respect her.  You obviously don't know what is good for you....so follow her lead.

Answer 8

Emma, dear:

I'm OLD, and my mom still treats me like a kid...it's hard to let go, even when one is an adult. It's even harder when one is in the middle of their teens and has never supported oneself or made their way in the world.

I think she's sorry she let you have that much contact with him already and is trying to reel you back in. Doing a few things with him is WAY different than being alone with him in his house, especially since you two are making out. That's not a good situation for you...fun from your point of view, but not safe.

Does this young man think you should honor your mom's wishes?

He's put himself in line for statutory rape if nature takes its course with the two of you.

I know this is hard to accept (boy, do I know), but mom's not wrong.

Answer 9

Well first let me just point out he is older and has more experience and that probally frightens your mom. Try sitting her down and talking to her calmy liek a adult and maybe then she will realize your not a chil anymore, but you also have to remeber your not a adult either. She is looking out for your besrt intrest because she doesnt want you to get hurt.

Answer 10

You have a right to your feelings, and I'm sure this guy makes you feel good. Trust in your moms experience-she has your best at heart. It sounds like your mom is looking out for your best interest. As a mother who has grown children-I agree-he is being selfish-you should be hanging out with others that are your age.

Answer 11

you are not a baby, but as a parent your mother has a responsibility to protect you. I understand that this guy may seem like a good friend. But honestly a 20 year old should be hanging out and trying to fall in love with another adult over 18 years of age. You are young sweetheart, and will have plenty of opportunities to be with guys and go to their houses.

Don't let this guy manipulate you into believing that your mother is against you. She is actually looking out for you. Guys will come and go, but parents love you and have your back unconditionally.

Answer 12

you are a minor...that is why your mother is upset. you should listen to your mother, even if you think she "doesn't understand".