Why is my mom all of a sudden ignoring me and not my two brothers?

Question

Okay it all started yesterday my mom was screaming at me and i just threw a tantrum and began to scream back ever since my little brother's 6th b-day part she has been yelling at me and not my two brothers. By the way i'm the only girl and it seems as if she wants to get rid of me she screams at my two brothers ONLY when they do something wrong but she screams at me for no reason and i feel as if she no longer loves me. is this normal for a 41 year old to do this to her daughter of 12 years old ? i write songs expressing my feeling and it makes feel a little bit better but then she screams at me again and she has been ignoring me since yesturday and i have done the same thing to her and every single night i cry myself to sleep. what should i do ???

Answer 1

I feel bad for you. As a Mum I can understand how difficult it is trying to keep cool and not 'lose it'  sometimes. I know my oldest child sometimes gets the worst of it. Honestly if you can find a relatively quiet moment, talk to mum. Be careful how you word it, not so much accusing words like 'you always take it out on me' etc but go with  'It really upsets me when we argue'. I hope you get this sorted out, take care.

Answer 2

Maybe your mom is experiencing difficulties with other aspects of her life right now (work, money, partner) and is taking it out on u because u are closest to her. why not try talk to her, say you want to spend more time wi her tell her how upset it makes u feel wen u fall out, it mite just bridge that gap thats starting to form. she prob doesn't realise shes doin it so tell her wen u r both calm and back on speakin terms. good luck

Answer 3

Tell her how you feel about this

Answer 4

You should tell her how you feel.  Being a parent is hard.  We have a lot of worries and stress that our children sometimes don't know about.  That being said, she does not have the right to make you feel bad and hurt your feelings.  If she is hurting you so much that you cry yourself to sleep talk to her and if you can't or you think she won't listen write her a letter.  It seems to me like you can express yourself very well through writing.  Write down what you feel and give it to her.  Make sure you remind her that you love her and all you want is her love in return.  I hope all is well for you.

Answer 5

if you are the oldest then she may probably be over whelm and don't want to take it out on the younger sibling.  she probably feels like you are more able to handle her frustration.  Try talking to her and expressing how you feel.