Why is my mom like this?

Question

There is this guy that likes me. I'm flattered that he likes me this much, but we really have nothing in common- I have no classes with him, I don't know him all that well and I'm not really attracted to him. Basically, he's not my type. I feel bad for saying that but it's true. My mom asks me everyday if I talked to him and gets upset when I say I don't really like him. She wants me to date him. I don't even want a boyfriend right now, I know I am not ready for one (even though I am 16) . Why does she do that? She's not the one who has to go out with him..

Answer 1

You sound more like the adult than she does. Or maybe she's using reverse psychology.  When parents want one thing, kids (especially teenagers) do the other.  So she can basically get you to rebel against the thing she doesn't want you doing in the first place simply by encouraging you to do it.  Hmmm... smart woman or just immature?  You know her better than I do.

Answer 2

There are a lot of moms that do what your mom is doing.  They meet or see someone THEY like and want their daughters or sons to date them because they feel you are a good match.  Sounds like you have one of those moms.  If your not ready for a relationship dont get pushed into it.  You are still young and have plenty of times for boys later.  She should be supporting your decision and not pushing you into it.  Let her know you are not ready, nor want to get inot the dating scene yet.  Let her know you like your life the way it is and thank her you understand she is just trying to help, but you dont want a boyfriend right now.  

Answer 3

I'm a Mom.  I really want my daughter to be happy and sometimes I think I know what the answer to that is. Ha ha!  She is actually going out with a guy I really like but she is having misgivings about him.  It is not that he is mean, just not her type I guess. I have to exercises extreme control not to advocate for this guy!  It is her life and I wish more that she trust her own judgment than get what I think would be good for her.  Thank you for your question, it reinforces this for me.

And maybe your mom has similar wishes, just not the same resolution about it.  Try humorous responses (but not sarcastic)  

Answer 4

she just wants you to stretch and be friendly......you know go out with people. I'm mom does the same thing to be she says that she just want me to be happy......sorry its kind of a crappy answer but really she just want you to strech.

Answer 5

She prob thinks hes a good match.But if you arent ready to date,tell her that your not ready and that can you please stop asking me questions about him....

Answer 6

She may think he's a good match for you, possibly he has good family or seems like he's got his head on straight and she wants you to be with someone who will be a good partner.

Don't get all bummed, she's doing it because she cares.  Shrug it off, eventually it will die away.

Answer 7

is the guy rich?that could be one of the reasons ur mom is so persistent

ur mom could like the guy and the only way she could have him would be thru you

last but not least ur mom thinks u might like other girls and want u do go out with a guy for once.but if ur not ready don't jump into anything

Answer 8

She probably thinks he is a good guy for you, but if you're not ready to date, then tell her you don't want to date ANYONE right now and not to pressure you about it.

Answer 9

i think she mite just feel like ure reddy 4 a bf and maybe this guy is someone who ure mom think su would b safe with unlike some other guys u mite like,... idk