Why is my mom like this

Question

my mom won't let me go to my friend's house just cuz he's 20 and in college....I'm 15 I'm not a baby he's a nice guy what's the big deal?? she let us go to the mall and the movies and out to dinner once reluctantly but now she says I can't ever talk to him again why not???

And she got all pissed cuz he sent me a letter tellinng me that he loves and cares for me...she shouldn't have read it

she even let him pick me up from school so why doesn't she trust me to go to his house

he's one of my only true friends ppl at school don't like me and he makes me feel better when he holds me and talks to me he's really sweet she never understands anything

Answer 1

Your mother is just being your mother and doing her job, she knows that when he gets you alone he's going to tell you anything you wanna hear to make you feel good so he can undo your pants....? sorry i think it to be naieve of you to think he wont try ?

Your mother is a parent not your friend and at the end of the day she's responsable for your welfare.

Answer 2

5 years difference is pretty big. That's the same as you going with a 10 y/o 5 grader. It's just not right. Your mom is being reasonable, this man is trying to seduce you and use you for one thing. Why would a 20 y/o want a 15 y/o, just like you wouldn't want to date a 5 grader.

Answer 3

I hate to agree with your mom, I know it sucks, but honestly sweetheart that is so inappropriate I can't even tell you!  Do you realize that a relationship with him is for one purpose alone?  Friends my ***!  He's a pedophile is more like it.  Stay clear my love!

Listen to your mother, she's been there many times over.

Answer 4

She is likely worried about your relationship being inappropriately intimate, which is why she does not want you going to his house. It seems like she doesn't understand anything, but in truth, she probably understands more than you think. If he is the great guy you think he is, he should have no problem playing buy your mother's rules. She is your mother, her main concern ought to be your safety and best interests.

Best Regards,

Holly

Answer 5

Sorry hon, but your mom is right. You should not be going over to his house he is 20 you are 15, so either he is looser or just but ugly, or just trying to get something from you. I hope you have done nothing stuped you will be sorry for.

Answer 6

You won't like hearing this honey, but here it is:

20 y/o men have no business telling 15 y/o girls that "they love them".

I hate to say this to you, but you will see that this is highly inappropriate some day.  I am sure that she is worried for your virtue.

Please listen to her. You will thank her one day.

Answer 7

First of all this is not a question for etiquette. Second He is five years older than you and unless he is g*y is still trying to just get in your pants. Seriously think about it, why would a 20 yr old college student presumably starting his 3rd year, be hanging out with a 15 yr old high school sophmore?  I maybe be off base with this but is there any daddy issues here? Really think about it. Maybe if you were a few years older you would have that little bit of extra maturity to understand that the situation your in is kind of creepy.

Answer 8

Because your mom knows what he will try do when you get to his house. Your mom is experienced in this, lil girl! Trust me, if I were you I wouldn't go to his house. Just listen to your mom this one time! She is right, I promise you she is. You will regret if you go to his house, Pinky promise!

Answer 9

5 years is a really big difference and woule never let my daughter be part of that. i dont blame your mother. be very careful and dont get taken advantage of.  

Answer 10

you are a minor .you are under your mother care.when you be 18 you should start complaining if you dont like it move !!!!

Answer 11

She probably made mention to someone that her 15 year old daughter was dating a 20 year old man and heard the disgust in everyone's comments.  Are you sure that knew he was 20 years old when he went to the mall, movies and dinner with you?  She may have thought that it was a guy from your High School.  Has no one informed this guy that your relationship could put him in jail?

Answer 12

I understand what you are feeling here sweetheart. But your mum knows the way the world really is. She is terrified that her baby is going to get caught up in underage s*x or similar, something that no 15 year old is emotionally ready to handle, no matter how much they may shout and scream that they are. She loves you. All meetings so far have been in public. His house is private and you are just to young to handle any situation which may arise. Not trying to preach at you honey. Try and remember your mum would probably die to protect you. Let her help you here. x*x