Why is my mom making a big deal out of this

Question

my mom won't let me go to my friend's house just cuz he's 20 and in college....I'm 15 I'm not a baby he's a nice guy what's the big deal?? she let us go to the mall and the movies and out to dinner once reluctantly but now she says I can't ever talk to him again why not???

And she got all pissed cuz he sent me a letter tellinng me that he loves and cares for me. and wants to make me feel good ..she shouldn't have read it

she even let him pick me up from school so why doesn't she trust me to go to his house

he's one of my only true friends ppl at school don't like me and he makes me feel better when he holds me and talks to me he's really sweet she never understands anything

btw I asked this b4 but didn't get much help... It didn't seem like anyone understood

Answer 1

Hi

This must be so very hard for you, and I'm really sorry that you are so hurt.  But, your mom has to say this. She is responsible for your actions by law. And if she approves you being out with a boy over the age of 18, she is legally in violation of child neglet and abuse because he is considered an adult, and you are still a minor.  Child protective services would intervene and she could loose custody of you if they found out.  It's not to hurt you, or make you so mad at her that she is doing this. She is really just worrying about you and worrying about loosing you, and getting in big time trouble with the laws of this country.  She could go to jail if she was in approval of this relationship and the state found out.  

And then too, things could really get bad if your family decided to press charges against him.  It's against the law for a 20 year old to date a 15 year old.  Take care of you.  Know that you are not alone, and know that your mom does love you. In terms made simple, she's covering her *** and your boyfriend.  And if you let it go now, it will be so much easier than sneaking around....it's not worth it.  There is a world full of good people to make you feel good, and accept you for who you are. If the kids at school don't like you, so what? Love yourself, be yourself, and get through with your education, that's your job right now. It's 7 to 8 hours a day, and that's it. I assure you, there are lots of good boys out there right now, your age that are just dying for you to give them some attention! Go for them! Have fun,make it a game if you want to! You can do that!  Why not?  Just remember...if you choose the 20 year old boyfriend, things could get really a whole lot worse....Take care!

Answer 2

Moms is right on this one.  College boy probably wants to hit those skins, and you don't need to be s******g around with that shlt at 15yoa.

You're gonna look back on this someday and realize that instead of being more permissive, your mom should probably be even more strict.

Answer 3

no, you are just the most clueless girl in the world.

do you have any little sisters?

okay, for creative purposes lets say

Sally, your 11 year old sister just got a love letter from a 16 year old dude.

your 11 year old sister wants to go over to his house, unsupervised!

the smartness between an 11 year old and a 15 is about level

except 15 year olds have more hormones!

i should know, im one myself!

your moms right

Answer 4

Because it looks like your friends sees you as more than a friend, from what the letter read.

In all honesty, you're mom is making a good choice, he's 20, he shouldn't be hitting on a 15 year old, yes, it appears to me as though he's hitting on you.