Why is my mother jealous of the relationship I have with my aunt (father's sister)?

Question

I have a great relationship with my mom and share a lot with her but I've noticed she always wants to know what I've discussed with my aunt and tries to inhibit us from spending any time together just the two of us. Does she feel threatened? Has anyone else been in a situation like this?

Answer 1

Yes, My mom always got mad when I spent time with any one other than her. It could have been aunt, grandma, godmother, female family friend. When I got home she played 100 questions with me. One day after all the questions. I asked, if she felt threaten. Her answered floored me. She replied "I do" you seem to have so much fun when you are out with them and never invite me to come along. She also said why can't you and I laugh like that when we are out. She said I was always talking about them. I didn't realize I talked about them so much. It didn't help she and my dad's sister never got along. So, I assured her as best I could that she was my Mom and no one could ever take her place. I invite her to go with us on our outings, even though she decline the offer.  

Answer 2

bc she is your mom and wants you all to herself...she doesnt want you to have another mom like figure

Answer 3

She is possessive and afraid you will favor your aunt over her. She is being self centered. A person who loves would be happy you have developed close relationships with relatives that love you. You need to have a long talk with your mother.

Answer 4

Perhaps your mom knows info. about your aunt that you don't. I am also protective of my daughter, even tho she is 25 and lives in her own place. It is only your mom protecting you. Doesn't you aunt have any children of her own? If so then she should hang out with them more. I am not real clingy with my grown kids, but I do like knowing who and what they are doing especially when it's an older woman befriending them. But I don't know the circumstances of you aunts life and how she lives it. Moms know a lot and they love their kids forever. Be glad you got a caring mom and cherish that. Someday when she is gone you will wish you had of been with her more, my mom passed a few years ago and i miss her so so much and i am 52. I long so much for her touch and her smile and laughter, if only i could just talk to her 2 seconds.

Someday i will reunite with her, thats my greatest promise i hold on to. Take care sweetie and your heart will lead you to do what is best.

Answer 5

Maybe she feels like you care more about your aunt then her?

Answer 6

You have to prove to your mother that you love her the most. Do you like your aunt?

Answer 7

Yes she feels like your aunt gets some of her attention from you that she can get.  may not say this though.  spend a little more time with your mother and do things to make her feel needed more like ask her questions and such.  When talking to your mother about what you and your aunt do and say make it seem to your mother as not sounding very meaningful to you.

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Answer 8

their might be "history" u dont know about...ask your mom....

Answer 9

I hate that, that's just immature