Why is my mother like this?

Question

I'm a 21 y/o daughter comes from an asian family. I still go to college and don't work part time.

I feel sad for myself because, yesterday I borrowed a dress from my mom, and she ended talking bad things about me behind my back. She said, "Why is she wearing my NEW dress?" etc. etc. ... But she has already worn that dress! Actually I am kinda used to this situation, she never treated me like her own daughter. And I never talk back to her whenever she goes red. It's all about her in this family and my dad is a great person has been coping up with her nonsense behaviours ever since they got married.

I'm feeling sad again. =( Why is she like that? Isn't mother supposed to want what's best for her daughter?

Answer 1

So sad dear.  Anyway no matter what kind of mother she is, still she is your mother.  You can't change it anymore.  I think the best thing to do is talk to her nicely. Be honest of what is she doing to you. Tell your grievances.  My mother is an asian. Don't worry, I'm a mother too. Sometimes if I am upset I say something too but  I feel guilty after, but not all the time, of course. Maybe, your mom wants privacy on her personal belongings.  I think if you want to borrow  something try to tell her nicely. If she says no respect that. Don't ever thinked that she doesn't love you.  Just ignore those negatives thinking for your mom.  Im proud of you because you never talked back to her.  Signs of a good daughter so keep it up.  Love, understand and stay sweet to your mom. In return when you become a mother your children will treat you the same way you treated your mom. Good luck girl!

Answer 2

If my adult daughter "borrowed" my clothes, I'd be royally PO'd as well. You have to have respect to get respect. Your dad is not coping, that's his wife and he is holding up his end of his marriage vows. Your mom obviously does want what's best for you, you are living off of her in her house while you have the opportunity to further your education. Get a job, earn your own money and buy your own clothes. Then you don't have to "borrow" your mothers.  

Answer 3

Just because she's a mother doesn't mean she stops being who she is.  The best you can do is accept her as she is, and stop borrowing anything of hers.