Why is my pregnant girlfriend being so mean?

Question

Ok, my girlfriend is roughly 5 months along, and she's been extremely, and I mean extremely hateful to me for the last month. Most of it is her accusing me of things I haven't done (i.e. cheating and lying). I love her more than anything, and like I said, I have not, and will never do either one of those things, and I've never given her a reason to think either one, but she's also verbally and emotionally abusive towards me, and right now it's gotten so bad she wants us to break up, and I'm sleeping on the couch. I know her hormones are completely crazy right now, and part of it is normal,but it seems like there's something else to it. I've tried to help, and to ask, but she either won't say anything, ignores me, walks off, or yells at me. I love her with all my heart and soul, and I don't want us to be ruined because she's under some false assumption that I did something wrong. Please help!

Answer 1

you'll just have to deal with it for another 4 months dude.  

Answer 2

RAGING HORMONES THATS ALL ITS ALL NORMAL

Answer 3

at five months she's feeling fat and bulky and undesirable and in her head she's thinking thats how you see her. She sees you seeking someone who isn't.Comment on her new shape and how wonderful it it as it proves her love for you growing each day as the baby grows that will score you points  

Answer 4

It's probably hormones.. I'm a little over 4 months and my hubby gets all of my wrath! I try not to be so mean to him but it is like I just can't help it. One minute I'll be screaming at him the next i'll be in his arms crying.. it's all just a part of pregnancy! Good luck!

Answer 5

Probably due to hormones and maybe try writing a letter to her explaining how you feel, she should realise your emotionally attached to the child she is carrying and it is a difficult time for both of you as i am assuming here that this is your first child so a lot of things will be changing for the both of you.

Speak so to her friends and family ask for some advice or assistance in proving her wrong that you are truthfull and would never want to hurt her or upset her or the baby.

Hope everything goes ok for the both of you and things sort out.

Answer 6

thats because she has a freaking human growing inside of her thats gonna come out through her V4Gina.... why do you think shes pissed?  

Answer 7

Try pretending to sulk in a corner or pretend you have serious depression. She might have sympathy for you! :D

Answer 8

normal did the same to my boyfriend i felt he wasnt doing enough and he didnt understand what i was going through i would tell him to leave me alone and not talk to me so he did as i asked and i accused him of the same thing even though i knew he never would lie or cheat i was just angry and hormonal! she'll calm down though sorry to say but mayb in 5 months...

Answer 9

Sorry Its the hormones! some get morning sickness, some get psychotic haha  I was psychotic till about 7mths and then I mellowed right out.  She probably can't see how unreasonable she is being right now (I didn't), but she will look back on it one day and laugh.  Hang in there ;-)  

Answer 10

yeah its hormones, best thing to do is try not to argue with her...easier said than done i understand, but she is feeling like a whale right now and un attractive you have to tell her you love her everyday tell her you think she looks nice, be nice as you can really then she wont have a reason to bite, its is hormones and its awfull, but she will lay in bed and think to herself why am i being so mean? because its out of her control. All men will be with you on this, we are horrible with hormones!

Answer 11

i my experience most pregnant women are really mad during there pregnancies for various reasons, and you got her pregnant so any blame is gonna go to you, just put up with and when the child born thee will be a lot of relief

Answer 12

it is normal for a pregnant woman to get emotional at times, so you shouldnt worry about it, at this moment all you can do is to ignore what she accuses you of and just go along with whatever she says. maybe you should surprise her with a nice gift.... just like how she's getting mad, she will be easy to get all emotional and forgive you for whatever you did...

good luck,

Answer 13

its part of pregnancy...

they become extremely irritable

Answer 14

There is something more to it. She could have some complex history somewhere - like anybody can have in any area of their life - and be believing a lie, based on this emotional memory (these "memories" can  happen in people early on - fear and rejection; also, lie-memories can be downloaded from places), and/or she may have heard and/or thought that she saw you with another woman.  It would be hard to do anything about it from where you are.  If I was in your position, I would pray to God (the One True, described in the Bible - Old and New Testament), allowing for whatever she throws at you, praying against anything bad that could separate you guys.  My God has always sorted things out for me, even when it comes to how other people are with me so we get along.  I'll pray for you both.

Answer 15

Your girlfriend is going through a hormonal and emotional rollercoaster right now that is very difficult. And although you should try to be as supportive as possible, you don't deserve to be mistreated, which honestly, is exactly what's happening. Tell your girlfriend you love her terribly and that you will be there for her when she needs you, but that you are not going to stand around and be abused. You don't deserve it like she doesn't deserve it. Then tell her, if she needs time to cool off, that you can go somewhere else to give her her space for a few days.

I hope things work out for you!!

Answer 16

hormones going mental. good luck  

Answer 17

This is a tremendous period of change, psychologically for you both, and physically for your wife. Let her know that you love her and are there to support her through the pregnancy and childbirth, but that you cannot experience the physical changes exactly as she will. Ask her to share any resentments or negative feelings she has about the pregnancy. Do not shy away from hearing her feelings, and be careful that you do not pressure her to have only positive feelings and anticipations for this child or her pregnancy. But do set limits on her unrealistic desire for you to experience her pregnancy through her physical hardships.

It is natural for your wife to experience mood swings related to enormous changes in her body at this time. Be sympathetic and proactive in helping her adjust to early discomforts of pregnancy, including nausea and tiredness. Her body is doing a tremendous amount of work, but it is so far invisible to most people. Let her know that you do not expect her to do everything she has been doing, and consider that the first trimester is a period of adjustment. She will likely appear more emotionally stable to you as she enters her second trimester, and her body is better adjusted to pregnancy.

You are becoming a father, while your wife is becoming a mother to your new child. Though it will be important to share equally in your responsibility to care for this child, your roles will be different at varying periods in your family development. These responsibilities will need to be negotiated based on many different things, but pregnancy and childbirth are certainly not experiences that can be shared 50/50! As your wife enters the second trimester of pregnancy, she will be more likely to be able to focus on the future. For now, accept her resentments that she is the one who will physically experience the changes (good and bad!) of carrying your child. And when she is willing, engage her in more fruitful discussion about the coming changes of parenthood in your life together.

When your wife has found her equilibrium with the pregnancy, begin to discuss your feelings with her. What is fatherhood bringing up for you? How were roles and responsibilities in your family shared? What is your vision of the kind of relationship you want to have with this child when he or she is born? How do you anticipate sharing caretaking responsibilities? Ask your wife what becoming a mother means to her? What kind of relationship did she have with her mother? father? And what kind of family relationships does she envision? Include and discuss concerns and particularly fears about becoming a parent. And ask your wife to tell you her feelings about pregnancy and upcoming childbirth.

Answer 18

She is releasing a trauma experienced in her past, might be from her own time as a foetus or a past life...it's hard to say. She needs a lot of love, more than anything else. Do not feed her anger spells in answering back and send her love and comfort thoughts every time she yells or be mean towards you.  This is very hard for both of you and, if you go through this, you'll deserve an angel's medal. Think about the baby suffering of this emotional havoc and focus on the fact that all you suffer with a winning attitude will spare some scars to your unborn child. Courage!

Answer 19

It's the hormones! I was like that in the beginning! I still have my days now!