Why is my son doing these things??? He could've had a full scholarship..he is a great athlete but instead of

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working hard..he just blew off his grades and turns out..he didn't even have enough credits to graduate! He lies to us constantly..he asked to borrow my car last night and said he would be home by 10.He shows up at 4 a.m.!!!! It's one disappointment after another..he doesn't work. He keeps saying he's getting a job but he doesn't.We have stopped giving him money, we have been so angry. There is so much to explain it's impossible to go into all of it. He's not doing drugs..I know that for sure but he does like to drink and party with his friends. Any suggestions?? How can we get him to see how the REAL world works..I don't think we prepared him. He is the baby of the family and his father has always spoiled him. He would get into trouble with grades or discipline at school and it was mom to the rescue because I didn't want to be embarrassed when he had to sit out from basketball of f/ball when he was the star of the team. After a while..even the coaches started giving up on him.

Answer 1

To answer the "why" question - because he can.

So far, what has been the punishment?

If he isn't working outside the home, he should be in the home. Make him mow the lawn, dust, do laundry, etc.

Unplug, store, sell, whatever is distracting him from doing what he should be doing.

Grades should be top priority - not sports.  I love sports, but my kids (4) know that if they don't perform in school, then they don't perform on the team.

It's time to be a parent, not a friend.

Answer 2

boot camp is too extreme ignore that lady (plus he may come back angry)

do as the good man said no sports n' no money, he'll have to get a job after that learn some responsibility (i gots a freakin job n' i'm 16!)

and don't ever take his word for anything anymore, if he ask why remind of all the times he's bs u, n' that u not even gonna budge to let him borrow the car

or u can start hating him n' say he's out, 18 n' out (like my mom keeps doing, don't do it he'll hate u sooo bad, but that does create independence, well in my case)

Answer 3

i would practically bet my life hes doing drugs.  and boot camp sounds like a good option,  you where obviously a sissy about punishment in the past,  so get is straight now while you still can.

Answer 4

two words: boot camp.

He's messed up, and boot camp can and will straighten his *ss out.