Why is my wife moody someone help me?

Question

My wife was getting close to this guy at church that she was workn with for some projects. I called her out on it as she was texting him alot n erasing messages n claiming she did it cause her phone gets full fast so she has to erase messages etc. We would be at his place and she would invite him to sit next to her n not near the tv as he would mess up his eyes, and at his place too as he left to go to the store to get somethings n left us his guests in the hse for 20 minutes, wife n him were texting. She said she was just texting him to bring things for a salad that she wanted to make, anyway those texts were erased too.Anyway we talked about it n she told him that her n him need to stop textn calling so much as im not comfortable with that. He has a girlfriend too.N everything has been okay for 4 days since she told him that they need to stop the closeness cause he has a gf n she is married.Today the church group has left for outta state for the weekend n she wanted to go but couldnt get days off work.This guy was also part of the group but is going too with his girlfriend.My wife has been moody since last night coz she couldnt go. Today all i heard from her is how she wished we could go.She was suggesting we drive to florida to join the group(7 hr drive) sunday morning n spend the day out of state n night too n come back monday. Im like why spend all this gas money for a 1 day vacation? 14 women have gone on the trip n 3 men.So i dunno if shes just moody cause she wanted to really go for the trip or cause of what/? But shes neglecting me now for 2 days emotionally and being snappy with me.Can someone explain this to me? Is she missing the trip n wishes she rfeally went n thats y shes snappy? Or is it cause she wanted to e in thsi guys company( his girlfriend is gone too with him n the group) so what would be the logic here?

Answer 1

your wife has a crush on him and hes encouraging her. Its called an emotional affair

Answer 2

You have several choices here. A counselor for the two of you is always a good idea. Another would be to pull this guy off to the side and have a decent but serious talk with him. You can instead try reaching out to his girlfriend and express to her how you feel and then she will talk to her boyfriend.  Or you can reach out to the pastor or a leader and explain how you are feeling and allow them to intervene here for you. You should expect your wife not to be too happy with involving other parties however, you guys need to bring this out in the open so that you can heal. Good luck.  

Answer 3

I only had to read the first few lines. You wife has some type of feelings for homeboy. I don't now what to tell you to do outside of confront her with what you suspect.  If she acts out you should let her be alone for a while. Get just a moody as her.  We as women don't like when our men start not paying attention to us no matter what the situation is. Trust me it will work because she will assume that you are being just as underhanded as she is and she will not like it one bit.

Answer 4

You have a wife that is having an affair.

Answer 5

I told you to take her with YOU this weekend (c:

Her heart is testing being infatuated with that man.  YOUR job as husband is to remind her that YOU are in love with her and that you are committed  to the marriage. Ask her "what does HE do for you that I could not do"... do not judge what she says... in fact keep quiet UNTIL she is done speaking. If you interupt or judge...she wont tell you all.

Answer 6

she is messing around.

she is making up excuses.

she's moody bcos she wanted to go and be with him,

be around him

she might also be mad that her "friend" is with someone else

and not her.

Come out and ask her if she wants to be with him

If she gets quiet she does

If she gets mad its because she does

If she's calm and talks straight don't worry

goodluck

Answer 7

I think that she has a connection with him in sum kind of way.  If she's bold enuff to text him right infront of you then she may not mean any harm. I think you may b taking it  lil out of hand also.   Sure she wanted to go with the group and she wanted to be in his presents as well.

It doesn't matter if his girlfriend is around.  That doesn't stop her from wanting to be around him.

Sit her down and tell her of her behavior and how it's effectin you.  Let her know that she has to fall off this guy.  She doens't want  you to have a female friend in which you text and call then erase.  So let her know it must stop or else she'll be falling her marriage by disobeying her husband.  

Answer 8

Yeah, it's always the better-than-thou holy-rollers that do the dirtiest of deeds during the week and then pretend to be good Christians on Sunday. I wouldn't let my wife near a sick crowd like that. Get her away from that so-called 'church' if you expect to remain married much longer.

Answer 9

she wants be with him for sure.  watch out.  

Answer 10

Her phone may get full of messages fast and she needs to erase to get more. That could be completely honest. I have motorella and once I get 34 messages it is full and I have to delete to get more messages.She may have just really wanted the break away and is disappointed she couldnt get the time off so it made her moody.She is your wife do you have any reason to not trust her.You told her you were uncomfortable with her being so close to him so she told him they needed to stop give her some credit and see if she does.

Answer 11

She is definitely having an affair , an emotional one, at least.

I suggest you read this book:

http://www.amazon.com/Not-Just-Friends-R...

Answer 12

Well as yourself this question:  Have you been giving her the attention she needs lately?  If not, it could be that since someone else is giving her attention, she's talking more with that person.  You could try being a little more aggressive, just a tiny bit.  Some woman like it when a man knows what he wants.  Tell her how you feel about the situation.