Why is pregnancy so gross to me?

Question

I fear pregnancy and have used birth control religiously, I now am engaged to a man with a vasectomy. I not only hate the idea of myself being pregnant but anyone else having a baby generally disgusts me. What could cause such an fear of pregnancy?

Answer 1

I don't think that sounds so weird.  I am grossed out by it, too; not even by the baby growing and coming out part, but more by the getting very fat part.  I view fatness as a certain kind of grossness and out-of-controllness.  Fat people just look uncomfortable and gross, and can smell very bad.  Most fat people, in the US at least, are fat because they are not educated about healthy choices and/or have given in to the lazy aspects our society allows.  I think that is the gross part; pregnancy would make you fat and sweaty and would make it hard to move.  Do you think this means you are afraid of being pregnant, or do you think that your thoughts are more about not wanting children?

Answer 2

You're just averse to the changes of your body during pregnancy, and it isn't pretty. Don't know about disgust, but our generation is overpopulated as it is, and it's not for everyone-maybe its responsibility.  You're prob not used to being around kids.

Answer 3

Its probably just a sign you don't want a kid!  

Answer 4

what could cause this fear...CHILDREN! (I have the same fear...)

Answer 5

Possibly somewhere down the track someone has told you things about pregnancy that was possible a bit graphic, gory, etc? Maybe when you were younger and it has put a terrible mental image in your head? I'm not sure, just taking a guess.

Maybe it's just because your scared of the unknown?

But really, it is a beautiful thing. I personally don't enjoy being pregnant as much as most ppl, but it's totally worth it at the end when your looking at a "little you". :)

Answer 6

You are child-free (and smart).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Childfree

Welcome! I had a vasectomy when I was 21.  I have no children!  :)

Answer 7

This is actually more common than you would think. There is a medical term for it but unfortunately I cannot remember it. I read a very interesting piece on this a few months ago, and in almost every case the women who shared your fear had either heard or witnessed something about pregnancy or childbirth that had traumatised them when they were young. Some of the women had undergone therapy and had then had a child, some chose to remain childless. The point is that it is not about not wanting a child it is about not wishing to experience pregnancy and childbirth. You are fortunate that you have found a partner who has chosen not to have (any more?) children, so you may be perfectly happy not to re-produce, if on the other hand you would actually like to have a child, you would need to address your abhorrence of pregnancy, or consider adoption. The important point is that you are not unique, many women share your fears, so please do not think you are alone.

Answer 8

I think deep down you may have once wanted a child but saw all the negative aspects instead of the positive and it really affected you. For instance if your friend has a baby then loses her identity, gets really fat or doesn't fulfill her dreams and is miserable then you see that baby as the reason for misery. Or if you were raised with lots of children then the "babies are so cute-we can dress them up!" phase was over and done with a long time ago. Some people were just never meant to be parents and if that's the case then don't force it and be happy as just a childless couple. But dont' look at other people with disgust if they want to have children. Imagine something you love to do like writing, fishing, dancing or whatever and imagine someone thinking you were disgusting for doing it. Some people live for nothing else than to have children and as long as they take care of them properly then that's ok.  

Answer 9

I don't know if this could have anything to do with it or not, but just today there was news about a study in the UK that said women on birth control pills may be attracted to the wrong kind of men because their hormones have been altered.  It has something to do with pheromones.  

On talk radio they were talking about how when women's hormones are altered after childbirth (etc) women can think kind of differently.  It's like they' "under the influence" (only of hormones).

Now that I'm through having my own babies I find pregancy disgusting too.  I wonder if it has something to do with hormone changes that, in my case, have come with my age; but in your case, could be from being on the pill.

If I understand things correctly, women often want babies at around 24 years old (which happens to be the age women are at the optimum obstetrical age for having a baby).  I found pregnancy disgusting until I got close to that age, then I wanted a baby for a few years, then I had my babies, and then I found it disgusting again.  

Even if it's not pill-related hormones, it could be your age.  Are you under 24 or over 35?

Just a thought...

Answer 10

Did you ever witness a birth?  Either live or on TV (real, not from a fictional show).  I saw one when I was 12.  It pretty much put me off it too.  It was traumatizing.  Sounds like you are in the same boat - even if you don't remember it.  Something happened that really put you off it.  If it isn't a problem for you - don't worry about it.  Baby making isn't for everyone - but the practice sure is fun!

Answer 11

Maybe its the pain and the getting big and blood

But having a baby is a beautiful part of nature,It may hurts(ALOT) but after you hold the baby in your arms you wont feel anymore pain.

Answer 12

It just means you're not ready yet.

Answer 13

You don't want children and you are maybe afraid of the pain of childbirth and the responsibility of having children and of possibly weight gain during pregnancy and not being able to lose it if you don't work out... and of being tied to the house and you want to travel. Maybe you had no happy childhood and for that reason you want no kids.. or you just don't like to have any. You don't have to worry now. If you stay with your partner who had a vasectomy and you take the pill, there is almost a zero chance you will ever get pregnant...so don't worry about it anymore. If you took  all the precautions then your fear .. you can drop it.