Why is s*x so?

Question

Emotional? I hear all this talk of you regretting it when you lose your virginity. But not if it's after you get married, or until your older? What does age have to do with it? And what does marriage have to do with it? Won't you regret it if it's lost to an abusive husband or wife, or if the marriage ends in a bad divorce? And how long do you regret losing your virginity to the "wrong one" before you forget it? A year? Two? Five? Why does being older automatically make you able to make better decisions? Because I'm sure that if your making bad decisions when your a teenager, and no consequences arise from them, you will continue to do so, won't you. So age plays no part in it whatsoever.

Answer 1

why would u regret losing your virginity and who u bang?

must be a 40-year old virgin

Answer 2

You regret losing your virginity to somebody if you end up realising that you werent actually in love with them. If you were married to someone, and they were abusive, you still loved that person enough to marry them and you wouldn't regret sleeping with them as much as you regret marrying them in the first place, especially as losing your virginity wouldnt really be on your mind worrying you when you are being beaten by your husband. I lost my virginity when I was almost 18, to my 9th boyfriend, I avoided sleeping with all the others and I am glad as I did not truly love them, the person I DID sleep with I am no longer with, but I know for sure that I really did love him and I have no regrets. I have only slept with 2 men and the 2nd one I have been with for 5 years now and am having our second baby at christmas : )

Simply put age = experience. When I was 16 and had my first boyfriend, I THOUGHT I loved him, but I had not experienced 'not' loving someone before either. By the time I did lose my virginity I knew the difference between thinking I love someone and ACTUALLY loving them.

Love and s*x have a lot to do with each other. If you don't see that then you shouldnt have any problem regretting losing your virginity with anyone. Would you enjoy having s*x with a rapist? Its still a physical act so shouldnt you be able to enjoy that too? h**l no! s*x and intimacy fit well together, keep people connected. Not saying s*x means anything to everybody, but to me it does, and that is why I waited til I was in love and that is why I have no regrets (and no STD's or children to one nighters!)

Answer 3

s*x would not be such a huge deal if people did not place such importance on virginity and chastity. But, that's religious influence for ya!

s*x is fine as long as the people doing it are being responsible about it by using BC and protection.

Answer 4

You shouldnt regret it. s*x is a biological function that all of us as humans are compelled to fulfill through our instinct. It would not be a taboo if almost every adult didnt tell kids that it was such a bad thing, while they themselves are off doing it. Its not a big deal if you play it safe and know what you're getting into

Answer 5

i dont regret losing my virginity. i dont regret anything, if i could change anything about my past i wouldnt because its all lead me to be where i am today and im perfectly happy with my life the way it is right now.

Answer 6

Really, it doesnt matter. I completely agree with you. Adults are just as bad as teens, age doesnt really make a difference.

Answer 7

Maturity level does play a roll in when you should have s*x. Are you mature enough to except the consequences of birth control not working... getting an std... getting pregnant. And if pregnancy does happen are you financially stable to raise that child. Can you offer that child health insurance, are you able to make his or her appointments, are you able to buy food for that baby. If you get an std are you smart enough to get treatment. Don't think that you don't have to tell other sexually partners that you have one either because you can get in trouble for that as well. I'm not talking about a slap on the hand from your parents either. Age does play a roll in having s*x. s*x is emotional or at least it should be. It's not something that should be considered free to give to everyone.

Answer 8

you ask wayy too many questions.

Answer 9

your very right , i totally agree

s*x isnt as big a deal as they make it ITS JUST s*x !!!seriously , its such a great thing but it doesnt matter if the one you loose it to is the 'wrong one' , i mean who cares , just get over it

virginity isnt that amazing really , its just religious hype

Answer 10

s*x is Meant to be emotional - that doesn't mean it always is. You have s*x without love and love without s*x. And age matters in how you interpret s*x. The older you are the more developed your brain is so you interpret and define things differently then when you were younger and you've had more life experience so yes, you do tend to make better decisions. Also, the older you are the higher the chances that you're better prepared to handle the consequences of s*x including unplanned pregnancies and STD's.

Teenagers want to think that they know everything and that adults don't have a clue but just remember - in a few years you're going to be the adult who doesn't know anything.

Answer 11

i think your trying to sound so smart when you actually not think straight. try putting yourself in someone else shoes. love play a huge part when loosing you virginity,you dont do it cause it feel good because you dont know how it feel yet. losing your virginity takes anyway your innocent and means alot to women.but your right wheather you married or not you can still regret it.

Answer 12

i totally agree. yeah sure, a ton of people will probably bust me for this, but i'm 15 and i've had s*x with my boyfriend of 7+ months. many times too. and i guess the talk about being older applies because if something really does happen, it scares you. if you had to wait until next month when you should get your period to know whether you're pregnant or not, it'd drive you crazy. (believe me)

i don't think that being older gives you the skill to be able to make better decisions. so many adults make worse decisions than we do. if anything, sometimes you need to make bad decisions to be able to make better ones.

as for the emotional thing, i might have to disagree. although yes , s*x is a physical act. i don't think you'd enjoy it very much with someone such as your best friend. (akward)

sure you don't have to be totally in love to do so, but i think people just say you should be in love with the person y ou have s*x with in case something goes wrong.

and plus, religious influence. i read this book once. and it spent like 6 chapters explaining how god wants us to only have s*x after we're married. so that's another reason why everyone says it's so emotional and everything.

s*x isn't that bad, just be careful.

Answer 13

because in your teens obviously your in your puberty stage and you tend to be confused and sexually active. and teens make mistakes and trow their life away at an early age. So its better to have s*x when your older