Why is she doing this

Question

Every time I take my friend's daughter (she's 10) swimming she's always wanting me to a) give her piggybacks b) pick her up and throw her in the water c) catch her in mid air when she jumps of the ledge. She also trys sitting on my lap and sometimes calls me "daddy". I don't mind doing the first 3 things, but when she tries to sit on my lap I tell her to stop it. Why is she doing this?

Answer 1

maybe she doesnt get the attention or love she needs at home and is looking for it elsewhere? if she were older i'd think she were exploring her sexuality but shes too young, maybe she's seen stuff like lesbians on the telly tho and doesnt know what to make of it or if that is how she is expected to behave or summin

Answer 2

well obiously she likes you more then her own dad or wishes you were her dad... you should have a talk with her.

Answer 3

She's still a little kid, but if it gets to a really annoying point then you have to set some limits. I have a cousin like this and It gets soooo annoying!!! ugg.....yr not alone

Answer 4

Sounds like she has a crush on you. Watch your step. You the adult and it is up to you to set the boundarys and keep them.

Answer 5

she likes you.

Id you dont like it, try telling her parents that you feel uncomfortable when she does this.

Answer 6

Brandon.. you can't figure this out? Either she has a crush on you or she is looking for a father figure. It's very important for little girls to have men in their lives to look up to. And yes..many times there are little girl fairy tales, nothing bad, just innocent infatuation.

But because she calls you Daddy I definitely feel she's more in need of a dad. Is her dad around physically or even better is he there mentally? Is there no dad? Which I highly suggest Big Brothers and Sisters of America.

Don't freak... its normal for her to act that way. Be kind/understanding and nurturing. It's actually a pretty big compliment by the way.

Answer 7

She seems to be attached to you. Think of it from a child's view. You're playing with her, and in general, you're acting like her father. She must really like that! If you really want her to stop, ask her why she's calling you daddy. Really talk to her, face to face. Does her own father pay enough attention to her? She may also want to be babied, and have you act like she's your own daughter.

Answer 8

does she even HAVE a dad involved in her life? maybe she is craving a father figure to give her self confidence and hope and that's the only way she knows to express it.  

Answer 9

She is a kid. If it disturbs you, dont let it happen. She does not know if what she is doing seems to you like flirting or teasing, at 10 they are still kids. If you see more to it, step away.

Answer 10

10 doesn't really seem like an age for doing that?!?!?

Maybe she thinks of you as a 2nd dad or something try to prevent it by correcting her...

Maybe it's a crush?

Kids well be kids...

Good luck

Answer 11

You're likely the only male in her life that shows her any type of attention, so she's trying to get the most out of it.

Answer 12

Maybe to her she looks up to you as a better father figure than her own dad...and by the whole sitting on your lap thing...if it seems she's acting in a lewd way then talk to her parents about it, even if it is uncomfortable saying something like that to them .....then again the problem may be yourself and you're the one making a glass a water into an ocean....

Answer 13

Looks like she likes you.  Maybe her real father doesn't have time do to these things with her and she wants that.  Talk to her father about it.

Answer 14

you are being a father figure to her.  does she have her father around?  if not, then she's is looking up to you.  if she does, then her father may not spend enough time with her

Answer 15

She is still learning proper boundaries.  It is up to you to decide with your friend which boundaries should be set.  Do the right thing.

Answer 16

she's a kid relax, stop being so immature grow out of it.

Your probably the father figure to her.

Answer 17

TELL HER PARENTS WHAT SHE IS DOING WHEN SHE SITS ON YOUR LAP. IF YOU TELL HER TO STOP AND SHE DOESNT OTHER THEN THAT SHE PROBALLY LIKES YOU

Answer 18

Seems like she likes you.

Answer 19

shes feeling comfertable with you in a father way maybe shes not getting that at home talk with her father and see what kind of relationship they have maybe thats whats going on

Answer 20

Where is her father? If he is not in the picture that she is trying to fill that void with you. If her father is in the picture than she may be confused as to what a father is. She may see all adult males, or at least adult males that she is comfortable with, as her father. She's 10 though, so that is odd. Whenever she calls you daddy, correct her nicely letting her know that you are not her dad. If I knew more about her situation I could give better advice, but for now that's all I got. Are you and her mother together? Has she seen you two holding hands or kissing? If you aren't together perhaps in her mind she wants that to be the case. Kids are actually very complex. Good luck!!

Answer 21

It's Possible That She Likes You A Lot Or That She Needs A Lot Of Attention.

Answer 22

shes having a great time and takes you as a father figure.

Does she have a dad?

if not thats y she calls u daddy

And she sits on ur lap cuz she likes u ...apperently a lot

Answer 23

she might want think of you as a father figure or she has a crush on you brahh

Answer 24

when i was 10 i had a friend like that she was always clingy to my mother i hated her! but i think it was cuz she did not have a mother to do it with her mom did not want to hold her and hug her i found that out when i went to her house once, im still great friends with her though  

Answer 25

Maybe she's being molested at home. :( I saw a movie like that once.

Answer 26

It might go deep like she doesn't have a father and is using you in a way to replace her father, or her father doesn't pay enough attention to her.

Or it could be that she just enjoys your company and wants you to play with her! But i think the first things i said sounds more accurate.

Answer 27

Dont be a jerk to her about it...

Just be like,

"Silly, _____, I'm not your daddy! ______ is your daddy! I'm Uncle."

Or if you dont want her calling you uncle, have her call you by your name.  

Answer 28

she seems to be clinging to you as father figure and has taking a liking to you. my guess would be that you are the leading man in her life and she feels a void in that department and she tries to fill it with you and theres a bit of a crush situation and how old are you

Answer 29

Cause your a father figure for her.  

Answer 30

probably you guys have a close relationship and she sees you like a father

Answer 31

She's lacking a male figure in her life that she respects and cares about she just feels close to you and like you care about her. Talk to her mom about it when shes not around so she can have the talk with her. Obviously shes lacking some attention and love she needs from the male side of life..