Why is she like this? please help me out im confused and depressed?

Question

a few days ago i broke up with my girlfriend because i want to get my life undercontrol ya know like a job and stuff so im not a bum and i couldnt handle all the stress.

well whle we were together she was talking to this guy ethan who she knew all he wanted was s*x and would talk non stop about him and how she wanted to live with him and me together and all this c**p. i didnt know he just wanted s*x but i found out she lied to me about everything in our relationship including all about him and she promised not to talk to him anymore. which was a lie.

we've been apart for like 2 days and she already is talking to him alot and all this c**p its like wtf. idk. shes doing all this c**p that she said she wouldnt do, like drugs, smoking, talking to that guy ethan even more, and lots of other stuff. she promised me she wouldnt do it anymore and loved me and. just idk. she seems so happy that were not together after telling me that shes so upset over the break up and cant live. why the f*ck is she like that now that were apart for like 2 days if she's so supposedly hurt?

Answer 1

Hello there,

One of the best things I found for dealing with stress was meditation.

I went through a period of my life where I literally had a breakdown because of stress and was off work for months because of it.

During this time I was offered all sorts of drugs and the like by doctors which I turned down.  One of my friends mentioned meditation and how they had heard it was really good with stress.

I found a local group, signed up and started to learn to meditate.  I now attend a group every week and meditate daily and found that my stress levels have dropped significantly and that I am able to cope through situations where I wouldn't have in the past.

If you're suffering from stress, then try meditation, it's a really good way of reducing your stress levels.

Hope that helps you out! :)

Answer 2

Get over her.  To stay with her or get back to her is to ask for pain.  She is not built for faithfulness. Some gals are like this.  They are happy to have you  but are continually looking for someone else, someone in addition or supposedly better.  In the end she's going to wind up alone.

Do what you need to do to get your mind off of her.  Work of studies, develop projects that are meaningful to you. Talk to a friend.  But don't talk about her.  

As much as you can, as soon as you find yourself thinking about her, say (inside) STOP.  Important: Substitute another thought on another subject.

Best wishes.  (It gets easier but takes some time!)

Answer 3

Her doing those things could be her way of dealing with the stress of the breakup, not to defend her in any way.  She has proved to you that she can't be trusted, which is the basis your relationship should be built on.  I would let her know that you care for her and although you don't see a future with her in a relationship you still want the best for her.  It sounds like she's taking a turn down the wrong road and needs a little help from a friend.  Express your feelings and then move on.  She's proved to you that she doesn't think enough of you to alter her behavior.  All you can do is state your case, it's up to her if she wants to follow it.

Answer 4

So sorry that you're hurting over your recent ex-girlfriend.

But you really did the right thing in breaking up with her. Her subsequent behavior strongly confirms that.

She may be trying to make you jealous or otherwise "get back" at you for breaking it off with her. BUT, if she really loved you (or herself, for that matter!), she would NOT be acting like this with anyone else! Drugs, smoking and random s*x are all self-destructive.

And, what kind of relationship can you expect to have with someone who lies to you? An intimate relationship needs honesty, openness and trust.

Although you're hurting now, you are truly better off without this woman as your "significant other".

Kudos to you for deciding to get your life under control! Focus on that for now, and, believe me, you will eventually find a woman who appreciates you and will be true.

Good luck!