Why is she making such a big deal?

Question

Im 18.

I have a semester of HS left, so im still living at home.

My mom has this huge problem about me sitting in my room all the time.

She hates how I sit in here all day and barely come out.

She hates how I spend so much time on the computer and doing my nails.

I go on myspace, Y!A and my facebook. I google stuff, I dowload music, so it's not like im doing anything innappropriate.

And I change my nails once or twice a week.

She pissed because I rather sit in my room and do all this than stay downstairs all the time and do nothing.

She gets annoyed with me locking my door all the time but her and my brother have no manners and they just walk in, which is highly unnacceptable.

I have nothing better to do. All my friends are busy and im finaly getting call backs for jobs.

She tells me she is cutting off my cellphone and the internet. Lame.

Continued....

Answer 1

omg my mom toooo!

im almost 15, and i sit in my room a lot and go on my lap top.

i go on myspace, Y!A, aim, and youtube.

and my brother and mom just walk in when ever they please

i tell them countless times to pleaseeee knock before they come in, just because its a lot nicer then barging in.

they still dont.

ill be on the phone, and my brother comes racing in, or ill be watching a video and my mom comes in out of no where and im just like...umm, knock much?

my dads the only one who knocks haha.

and my moms always like...

you need to get out of your room Paige, go out and do something!

im like bih pleaseee

haha

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Answer 2

Your mom probably just wants to stay connected to you.  It's hard to let your kids grow up. Maybe you could both give a little, she could give you more privacy and you could spend less time in your room.  Too much time on the computer and alone isn't a good thing, she's probably worried about you.

Answer 3

Omg my mom is the same! She always complains that I’m locked up in my room all day on the computer. She usually tells me that she’s going to cut off my internet only because she “cares” about me and all the time I spend on the computer isn’t healthy and all that c**p. She thinks that I’m going on things I shouldn’t be on. God I hate her sometimes.

If I were you I’d say to her “Mom, I’m 18 not a little kid anymore. I need more space and you aren’t giving it to me. . .” idk something like that. Make a deal with her on hours you can get online (as lame as it sounds) or do what I did, get out more, get a job, hang out with friends do whatever you can so you won’t have stay up locked in your room all day. Start doing your nails in the living room instead of your room, to show your mum that your not always up in your room.

Answer 4

Wish I could help you out on this one.  All I ever did was sit in my room as a teenager, but my parents never bothered me.  Either they preferred it or were just giving me my space.  Who knows?

Just wait til you graduate and move out.  Later on, you'll appreciate that free room and board.

Good luck to ya!

Answer 5

Are you just venting?

I happen to side a bit more with your mom on this issue. Try to see it her way for just a moment. Being a family is a 'group effort' on everyone part. It is your mom's job to be a mom and yours to be a daughter. . . . start acting like one. a mature one, and not so much like a prisoner.

Hey, You may find out that your mom and brother are interesting people. And they may respect you and your privacy and space once they start to see you as a REAL person and not just a dust collector.

Answer 6

if 1 of those summer/jobs comes through then tell your mum you will pay for your telephone/internet-bill so atleast she knows you are a responsible almost adult,In my country you are adult at 18 but hey when your mum sees you dont act like a kid anymore she will treat you  better and allows you more freedom and privacy and maybe for some fresh air and exercise you could go out like 1 hour a day....and help with some chores around the house

Answer 7

She misses u you can get her off your back but going out of your room for a bit and TALKING TO HER  so that she knows that u r OK ...trust me it would be worse if she did not care what were doing,

Answer 8

Your mom only cares about you. She just wants you to spend more time away from the computer because it can be bad for you. It is your decision though and I think you should do what you think is best. I would go do what my mom says, but I am not going to criticize you. I would prefer to be out with friends all day, but it is your decision.