Why is she not telling me?

Question

I've asked my friend if she wants to go to a concert. Haven't heard back.

She is very busy and sitting on this concert ticket. If she doesn't want to go or can not go, why is she not telling me so I can make other arrangements with someone else to take her place?

I have asked and so far gotten no reply.

Answer 1

she wants to go but doesn't know if she can

Answer 2

She might be afraid you'll be disappointed or upset.

Answer 3

You have asked her if she wants to go, and she has not responded to you? It doesn't sound like she wants to go very badly. How long has it been? A day? A couple of weeks? Chances are, she is waiting to see if something better comes along. Invite someone else, and when this "friend" decides she wants to go, let her know that you've already invited someone else because she didn't get back to you in time. It's harsh, but sometimes if you aren't a little tough, people walk all over you.

Best Regards,

Holly

Answer 4

Make other arrangements. If she then says she wants to go, tell her sorry, but when you didn't hear back from her you assumed she was too busy and made other plans. Maybe next time.

She might get huffy, but honestly, it's rude to keep you waiting. If she didn't know if she would be able to go, she should have said, "I don't know my schedule yet - can I let you know by X day?"  To not answer at all is just rude. Make other plans and have a good time!  

Answer 5

Leave her another message with a time which you need to know by or you will make other arrangements.  Send her a text or email mail also to show you made every effort before taking someone else.

Answer 6

She should be happy that you are inviting her in the first place. If I were you, I would invite another friend. If she asks why, say that she was too rude and inconsiderate to contact you back and you found someone else in the meantime.

Answer 7

she could have forgotten

or she could just be lazy

but either way ask her again!  

Answer 8

She is inconsiderate A phone call takes just a few minutes.  Sounds like Miss Inconsiderate is waiting to see if something better than the concert tickets comes her way.  Are you sure she is a friend?

Answer 9

I've had this sort of thing happen to me with friends.  I would always try to be the good friend and give them a chance and they practically always let me down.

You should ask her if she minds that you decided to take someone else since she hasn't given you an answer yet because she's busy.  

That may get her to give you an answer.