Why is she this way

Question

my mom won't let me go to my friend's house just cuz he's 20 and in college....I'm 15 I'm not a baby he's a nice guy what's the big deal?? she let us go to the mall and the movies and out to dinner once reluctantly but now she says I can't ever talk to him again why not???

And she got all pissed cuz he sent me a letter tellinng me that he loves and cares for me. and wants to make me feel good ..she shouldn't have read it

she even let him pick me up from school so why doesn't she trust me to go to his house

he's one of my only true friends ppl at school don't like me and he makes me feel better when he holds me and talks to me he's really sweet she never understands anything

Answer 1

Now come on. This seems a bit obvious.

You said that he sent you a letter telling you that he loves and cares for you and wants to make you feel good. It doesn't sound like he's a "friend" at all. He's twenty and you're fifteen. You might as well be a baby. The mall and movies and dinner are different from going to his HOUSE. Honestly, if you did go to his house don't you think "something" would happen between you two? Be honest with yourself before simply thinking that your mom is some evil harpy being ridiculous.

You guys sound like you're already dating and she's right for wanting to keep you away from a twenty year old that would mess around with a fifteen year old anyway.

Answer 2

your mom probably doesnt want you hanging around him and staying with him because he's 20 and your 15.  I dont know why she would say no now but still someone that's 20 shouldn't say things like that because the 15 yr old is a minor

Answer 3

you are still a child whether you want to accept the fact or not. He is primarily a person of adult stature. He can't want you as his darling, but maybe a plaything because he can't get girls his age. He may not be as grown up as his age indicates, but the courts don't consider that when a case of sexual abuse or contributing to the delinquency of a minor.Your mother understands quite well EVERYTHING,and is only protecting you, her child.  

Answer 4

I wonder more about him than you, what the h**l is he doing picking up 15 year old girls who he is not related to?  If you were my daughter, I would be reluctant as well.  Your parents are worried about you because a 20 year old dating a 15 year old is quite abnormal in American culture

EDIT:  He's probably a pederast who can't get girls his own age if he wants to "make you feel good"