Why is she wanting to take off my scarf?

Question

I am 16 and a recent convert to Islam 2 weeks ago..My father have accepted and my brother has also. My mom is not so forthcoming to the idea....My mother thinks I might blow her up and that I might rob a store..I told her thats just a stereotype...For the past week she has been okay with me wearing the scarf...but yesterday I heard a FAMILY picnic is coming up for Labor Day...today she has been trying to take off my hijab...I WEAR IT TO SCHOOL EVERY DAY!!!

Answer 1

Your mother has watched women being oppressed her whole life. She has also experienced that. Her generation has fought for women's rights and so forth. It probably hurts her to see you wear your hijab because it represents oppression. Not being able to show you skin or your face.

I have respect for all religions. Some are bizarre. I think that in Islam men hold women to be subservient and so forth. I am sure your mother is concerned for you in some fashion. She probably doesn't want you to hide your beautiful face or become a possession to a man. Your a woman and a human. Your not possession.  

Answer 2

u need to explain to yur mother y u wear it....

btw.... u r too young even though u r in the right religion u shud have waited till yur an adult to change yur religion. it wud have been wiser!

Answer 3

Perhaps, honor thy mother and thy father are not Islamic teachings.

Answer 4

Woah, I never knew us Muslims were gettin labled as robbers too

dang I been hiding out far too long

Answer 5

Tell your mom you're an American and are practicing your freedom of religion as guaranteed to you by the US Constitution.  

Answer 6

Your mother may want you to remove your hijab because she doesn't think you've studied Islam enough to have made a true commitment to it. Lots of teens think they want to do something very strongly and then change their mind after a few weeks or months.

Maybe if you explained to your mom all the rights you would have as a Islamic woman, and all the rights you wouldn't have, then she might understand that you are committed and why. On the other hand, that might make her even more upset. idk...

Answer 7

She feels embarrassed for you and wants it off. You can either respect your mothers wishes, or not. Its your choice.

Answer 8

As long as you live under her roof and she pays the bills you should listen to her.  This is a great opportunity to show her the love of Islam by being obedient to your mother (honor mother and father).  By doing so you will be a better witness for Islam.  WHen she sees that you are sincere then she will gain more understanding and accepting.

Remember, mercy is more important than sacrifice.

Peace,

tman

Answer 9

show her this:

http://www.qatarliving.com/files/hijab.j...

and tell her that's the difference between women with hijab and those without it

i'm astonished at how people would go crazy if their child converted to Islam and they wouldn't mind them dating or having s*x outside marital relationships, this only shows how Islam is being stereotyped. they wont even try to know more about Islam how sad

back to u try to discuss  the matter calmly with your mum and remember that you should not obey anyone in matters that are offensive to Allah

good luck

Answer 10

i'm g*y muslim but noone in islam will accept me.

you should fight back.

Answer 11

omgsh wow i can not believe that!

just do what you feel right, you shouldn't let people tell you what to do, i suggest sitting down with your mum and telling her why you've converted into Islam and try to convince her you've made a wise decision..which you have =)

if things don't work out, talk about it with your dad or a family member or friend to try to persuade your mum to let you wear hijab

sorry if things dont work out, inshallah they will ;) xx

Answer 12

i think you should talk to your mom, tell her about islam, maybe she'll understand why you wear hijab and will accept it too..it must be hard being the only muslim in your family, but youre lucky God must love you for it...just hang in there...god bless you and help you to get through this.. :)

Answer 13

keep it on sis. allah is going to guid you inshallah. she hates islam hats why. she wants you to be a christian and hate islam too.

im sorry to hear that. but do everything ou can and keep that hijab on!!!

salam

Answer 14

Just take it off. God isn't going to send you to h**l for not wearing it for a picnic...

Answer 15

Peace..

Though the Quran says that children must listen to their parents, it is said that there is a limit to listening to them and that is if they disobey what God wants for you. And God wants you to wear the Hijab so you should not listen to your mother about taking it off. But Smile as the prophet use to, to the people that hated him and be more kind to your mother, so she understands what islam is really about, and that is about Peace. Make sure you dont shout at your mother, as you owe her your respect as she is your mother and has taken care of you for soo many years and has raised you very smartly.

Make sure you doont:

Shout, Swear, Show your anger, anything that could hurt your family or your mother physically, dont do anything that is against god either

Remember to be:

Be Peaceful, show the Peace to your mum, be quite when she tells you to take it off and smile and tell her (if you christian) that the virgin mary use to wear scarf and cover her body also. Bring similarities between what she likes about her faith or about her life with Islam

Now the reason she wants you to take the scarf off because people think that muslims are bad because of the bad publicity they get in the media, and she is just looking after you so nobody says anything bad to you or harms you. She is looking after you like all mothers do.

Show your strength, The strength of someone who submits their will to God.

If you need any help, im here to assist

Peace

Answer 16

tell her to leave you alone. it's your head and you can do with you want with it

Answer 17

keep your hijab on sister

in islam one must always obey parents unless parents tell them to disobey islam and do something haraam

in this case, u get full right to disobey

Answer 18

Maybe she dosen't want the rest of your family to know about your new religion. Talk to her and tell her that this is your religion and as your mother that she has to respect that. I am very happy that you accepted islam and I wish you the best of luck with your mother.