Why is so wrong to smash cake in your fiance's face on your wedding day?

Question

And toasting with a beer in your hand instead of champagne.Thats what I am doing.

Answer 1

Both of those are really disrespectful. why??!!? o-O

Answer 2

Wow, one classy gal you are...lol.

Answer 3

Do whatever you like, but most people think it's tacky, gross, and overdone.  But if you don't mind having cake all over your dress, frosting all over your face and up your nose, and looking like rednecks, knock yourselves out.

Answer 4

Because it's messy and stupid - I mean seriously, what is the point?  Because other people do it?  Because it's cute?  

As far as the beer goes - who cares?  I didn't even have Champagne at my wedding - no one ever drinks it anyway.  

Answer 5

Toast with whatever you want.  No big deal.  Cake-smashing, however, is a whole other thing.  What about smashing cake into your beloved's face says "I will love and care for you for the rest of my days, no matter what"?  Talk about passive-aggressive behavior, a need to control and dominate, a desire to publicly humiliate the other.  Shall I go on?

Answer 6

I think it depends on the couple. Personally, if my husband did that in front of all our friends and family, I would be humiliated. Not to mention what would happen if he got some of that raspberry filling on  my new dress.

Answer 7

Wow, classy.

Answer 8

Smashing cake in someone's face is disrespectful.  Why would you want to smear cake on someone? It's pretty gross having all that sugar and cake across your face.

As for beer, nobody at your wedding will care because it sounds like you hang out with that kind of crowd.  It's not very classy but if you don't care about that then who cares.

Answer 9

Feeding each other cake symbolizes your willingness to live together and give to each other, and to make compromises and cooperate. To me it is also about being willing to make sacrifices to each other.

I grew up in a household where there often wasn't food - my step-father would eat the last of everything and then laugh at me because I hadn't eaten that day. So obviously, I have some food issues. It was almost 2 decades before I would not get upset if someone at the last of something in the freezer or fridge. My husband is the ONLY person I have ever let eat off my plate. It is a huge deal for me to be able to have food in my hand - and give it to him.

But even besides my own personal issues, smashing the cake is terrible and tacky. Smashing cake in each others' faces is basically saying, "I don't give a c**p about you - I'm going to Win and have my Way!"

It's horribly disrespectful, even if you think it's "fun."

A food fight would be fun if everyone is involved. But when you are standing in front of everyone it is just horrible.

You are basically saying, "We are husband and wife, and this is how we choose to treat each other. This is how we will deal with things in our marriage."

And beer is fine!

Answer 10

I don't know why everyone is giving you such a problem.  If you aren't a champagne drinker, I think beer is fine.  As long as it's in a glass and not out of a can.

And I've been to MANY upscale classy weddings where the couple smash a little cake at each other.  It's playful and fun.  Not meant to be mean.  

People take things way too seriously.

Do what you want.  It's your wedding.

Answer 11

I see nothing wrong with this at all. It might not be ~classy~ but if you guys want to do it do it! I wiped icing on my husband's face and a piece of cake fell down my dress (he didn't smash mine) so you can get dirty w/o smashing cake too.

As for beer, put it in the glasses, no one will know it's in there.

But remember it's YOUR wedding day don't let anyone tell you you can/can't do something. Sounds like you guys are probably a lot of fun!

Congrats and good luck!

Answer 12

It sounds like smashing cake in your husband's face is right up your trailer park alley.  Enjoy the day and smash away!

Answer 13

I can't even imagine the whole cake in the face thing.  Since when do adults treat each other that way?  Even children are not so violent to each other.

And yet, if you both agree that grinding cake into each other's faces is something mature and fun, who are the rest of us to say.

As for toasting with beer, who cares.  Toast with Gatorade if you want.

Answer 14

By all means, toast with whatever you want to drink.  But smashing cake in someone else's face?  I consider that to be completely disrespectful to your new spouse.

Answer 15

Who wants to pay alot of money for a beautiful gown to have it ruined by a food fight? Wait for your first year anniversary and use the top layer to smash it in each other's faces if you want.  I wouldn't do it at the reception though. Doesn't show much class, and it would P*** me off if my new hubby did it to me, considering I spent money on my hair  and makeup to look gorgeous for him..

Answer 16

If you both agree to the smashing of cake in each other's faces then fine, it's your wedding. If you plan on doing it without consulting your fiance then that is just wrong and disrespectful.