Why is their such leniency & support of women of the perrogative to "choose" whether to work, raise kids.. ?

Question

Why is there such a market for that type of thought-- " I believe all women should have the choice whether they want to go to school and ultimately have a full time career, whether they want to stay home and raise kids, or whether they'd like to do both!"

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Isn't there usually a man involved in these situations? All the support of a women's 'right to her perogative', isn't that putting pressure on the man to accede to the social pressures? Now he himself feels it's her right to do whichever she feels is her perogative (at the time) or up and change roles as she desires- and he's expected (by society) to plan around this and support and compliment whatever role she decides?

Does this line of thought mean that this portion of society also feels it is a man's role to support a woman in whatever role she'd like?

What about hardships or conflicts of interest-- obviously these people make such a noise about ' a woman's decsion', that seems to make it very clear that her decison takes priority. Right?

Answer 1

I think it should be a mutual decision by a couple.  both their feelings should be considered. However, the man might consider that if his wife continues working childcare is going to be very expensive, so if she does want to stay at home, unless she is leaving a very highly paid job, he's probably not going to be much worse off anyway.  And his wife won't be exhausted by 'juggling', and she'll have more time to give him some attention.

Answer 2

And to think I always believed self-determination was a human right.

You have made the most ridiculous argument (and I use that term loosely), you silly wabbit!

Q:  "Does this line of thought mean that this portion of society also feels it is a man's role to support a woman in whatever role she'd like?"

A:  Of course, and as she should support his goals and ambitions.  If they're not supportive of eachother, then what is the point of being together?  They're not compatible in the first place.  Time to call it quits and move on.  Life is too short for that BS.

Answer 3

A man can choose as well. Look closely on whom you get involved with. If you marry a ho or a rabi feminist in this day and age you are held accountable for your and HER actions.

Answer 4

These factors should be part of the getting to know each other before marriage.  If you can't agree you don't get married.  

Answer 5

No one ever seems to mention that there are men out there who stay home with the children ... I did .... I was astay at home father for 11 years ... and I wouldn't change a second of it ... my son and I are now very close .

Answer 6

Nobody holds a gun to any man's head to support a woman in her choices in life.  If we do, it is because of love, devotion, and the hope that everyuthing will work out for all intended..

Answer 7

u shud of worked out these things with ur wife BEFORE u married her...  if u dident want to support ur wifes choices... no 1 said u had to get married...

Answer 8

Feminists support family and work choices for both men and women-unfortunately non-feminists and anti-feminists can be unsupportive of men making "untraditional" choices such as men staying home part-time or full-time with their children; and they can be unsupportive of women working full-time to support their househusband and children.

That's why I support feminism-I want men to have the same work and family choices that women do-I think "traditional" gender roles are just as restrictive of men as they are of women. I've supported my partners at various times and vice versa-that's what flexible loving partners do for each other.      

Answer 9

In an adult relationship presumably both parties would discuss such issues and compromise if need be. Both men and women are free to choose whichever 'role' they would like.  

Answer 10

I think men need liberating, because of women's lib we can do watever we want and we're told that's fine! But men still judge eachother so much, and feel teh need to conform to 'being a man'. I recently saw some responses to a question on male stay at home parents, and the responses especially from the other men were digsuting calling him g*y and worhtless.

Answer 11

Some men want to take care of and provide for a wife. Someone to raise the children and care for his home and their posessions. The security of a good family relationship.A woman should make it clear that her interests are different than his before marriage. If a couple can set up a life with both in careers, and have a way of taking care of kids, and home, then that is a good thing. But I can't understand why a woman would get married, then demand that a man support her whim without his part in a retional decision.And she would get support from the screamers that seem to believe women stand above a man instead of along side him>

Answer 12

That's why you don't marry someone whose life goals don't mesh with your own.

Answer 13

I would imagine that this decision would be made by both the husband and wife.

Why shouldn't he support her? Usually we are more likely to move and acclimate ourselves to a whole new environment in order for our men to succeed, so if they both decide for her to stay home and raise the kids, work or go back to school - what's the problem?

It's called a MARRIAGE. And you have to make compromises if you want it to succeed or fail. If the man wants to continue his education or take care of the kids, that's a decision that should be made by the couple!

So no, it doesn't take priority. It takes a discussion and a decision by both of pros and cons.

Why does it seem like we can't do anything right?? Geezzz