Why is there so much social "pressure" to have a family?

Question

Like when you get to a certain age or whatever, people are like are you married? and you say no and they think you are crazy. Also if you don't want kids and hate kids, they think you are crazy. Why is it "cool" to be lame and have a family?

Answer 1

I agree with you. I'm 23 and already I know so many people my age getting married, having multiple kids right away (I live in a typical middle class suburb, not a trailer park or anything), and generally doing the whole "tradition" thing. I say, what is the rush here? And I do not want biological children. Marriage maybe some day, but I'm not putting a due date on my calender...

It really confuses me, until I turn on the TV or look at a newspaper or any other kind of media and I see this stereotype promoted everywhere. I'm not sure where it originates, other than with very old Puritan ideals, but it is mimicked for the purpose of conformity. I think some people don't know what else to do with their lives. If they think I am rude for saying that, they are rude for trying to pressure others into their lifestyle.

That said, there are plenty of people who really do want families for their own autonomous reasons and who are respectful of the unwed and childless.

But I really feel your point.

Answer 2

In order to have and maintain a family you need

. a stable job good paid

. a stable personality structure

.a model of functional family to not repeat other dysfunctional family.

Question:¿ How many human beings have these requisites?

Not many. To have a nice family today is like to have a blue princess, is like a fantasy.

But like they exists in the past, people continue with this objective that today it looks like a dream.

Answer 3

Why do you consider it lame to be married and have a family? I certainly don't think I am lame as a married woman. No kids yet but eventually (I hope).

Traditionally it is just what people do: Go to college, get a decent career, settle down on their own a little, get married, start a family. Just how it works. Not for everyone of course but for many it is. What is the real issue here with you?

EDIT:

I don't think you're odd or crazy but it just strikes me here that you have a certain level of dislike for those who are married and have children. You started it off with saying it was lame to have a family. If you can't handle being called out, don't post ignorant questions.