Why is there such double standards where sexual harassment is involved between men and women?

Question

Why is it that in our society a woman can in a sexual manner touch a guy who does not want to be touched and is in a relationship with the girl of his dream, but if a man did the same thing he would get his arsed kicked, ive seen this recently a friend of mine getting hit on all the time by someone he has no interests in at all, and she on different occasions has tried to touch him with her perverted friends egging her on. Now for any sick men and woman that say us decent men like this your wrong!!! When your in love you do not want some other perverted persons hands on you period. But yet all security did at university was laugh at him which made him feel worse. Can you imagine if him and his guy friends did that to a girl what would security do then?That's right he would be on a sexual assault charge so please why is this double standard there when we are in 2008 and supposed to be equal!!! views please and to all the women on line which have helped if you read this thank you for your support I'm not getting at you, you are the light in this world never forget that. Its the double standard and people I'm referring to not woman as a gender. thank you

Answer 1

Well women never did want just equality, they wanted superiority, and got it. Although I do laugh when I see women dressing in men's style clothes . Perhaps they are still not satisfied.

Answer 2

Yes, you're absolutely right. Whereas women suffered this kind of abuse for years, It has now gone too far the other way. Some women are becoming much more agressive and without doubt this is sexual abuse. Btw, yes, I'm female and am embarrassed at the behaviour of some women.

Answer 3

It's because there's a lot of less-than-civilized understanding of what constitutes the respect we owe one another as human beings; maybe I should say as beings.  Women certainly have less of sense of it than men do.  It ain't just "sexual."  How many times have we watched a cat or dog of ours descended on with squeals and rough petting by some oblivious girl with no regard for the animal's feeling?  Personal Space is something that less-evolved members of the s*x have not a clue about.  Thinking no evil, they even crowd one another.  When was the last time you went to the bathroom with a buddy, just to keep him company?

Answer 4

Feminists benefit with double standards. It is part of the fraud that they have bestowed on the U.S.A.

http://clearblogs.com/feministfraud  

Answer 5

It's simply wrong to have any such double-standard. A person has the right to the integrity of their person. Period.

Why the double-standard? Well, it's one of the innumerable double-standards that genuine feminists have ben combating, including the idea that all men welcome all physicality always from anyone.

This is a brother to the idea that when men violate their vows, it's just to be expected, compared to when women do.

"Supposed to be equal" is right; we're still on the way there.

So, as I've committed to fighting sexual harassment committed by women, will you similarly commit to fighting all the double-standards that hurt women?

If we all accept that all wrongness is wrong, whether our s*x is the victim or perpetrator, that wrongness itself is what we need to fight, we'll make some progress to that world of equity we wish for.

Answer 6

Double standards and misandry are all part of the cynical feminist game plan.

As an equalist, I abhor all s*x-based and race-based ideologies like feminism and racism.

Answer 7

Feminism.

Answer 8

While the whiners continue to blame feminism for this double standard, I would point out that this attitude would probably be the same well before the days of feminism -- which doesn't make it right, of course.

A lot of folks like to pretend that double standards that may be advantageous to females is a product of feminism. Actually, the very concept of protecting damsels from sexual advances has been around A LONG TIME. As fathers like to say, "guess I'll have to buy a shotgun when she gets a little older". In contrast, no such protective behavior is shown to males. Never has been! For eons, men have been expected to "man up" and handle their own issues -- particularly if said issue is as "petty" as unwanted advances from a woman.

Again, not saying it's right. But I just love how many people jump on the "blame the feminists" bandwagon when it's very much a sexist attitude predating feminism that has put men in this situation.

Good luck to your friend. When all options have run out for a man, he's absolutely entitled to and deserving of protection from the law.

Answer 9

Because the way society handles sexual harassment has not yet matured. I've experienced the same thing. People assume just because your a straight man who's highly attracted to women, that somehow that means you will enjoy any sexual attention a girl/woman gives you. As you stated, people don't think of the straight men who are very happily married or happy with their girlfriend. At work, a girl tried to give me a back massage twice while I was working, in a very seductive way, knowing that I am married. It bothered me that she didn't respect that I am married.

Another issue is that if a man sexually harasses a woman, he would be in trouble. If that same man sexually harassed another man, people don't usually take it seriously. There are closet bi and g*y men who sexually harass men at work all the time, and cross the line damatically because they know no ones going to do anything about it depending on the company. So they get away with it. This issue is so ignored that most people don't even believe it happens.

Again, society as a whole hasn't yet matured when it comes to the full range of sexual harassment issues.