Why is this happening to me....Is it a "big" problem?

Question

I just recently had a baby, 4 months ago. When I was pregnant I did not have intercourse at all. (long story short; no partner) Just until now that I live with my boyfriend, I don't like the "alone time". I feel "weird" when he tries to start something. I always tend to push him away I feel bad when I tell him I am not in the mood but just today he wanted to start something and I told him I had a headache. I really didn't though. So he kind of got distant then he said we needed to talk....he asked me why I do not want to have intercourse with him. No lie since we have been together we've only had intercourse like 5 times. We have been living together about 6-7 months. Is this normal or should I contact my doctor? What can I tell him when I am not in the mood? Will he leave? I am just so scared and confused....!!! HELP!!!!!

Answer 1

definitely not normal. definitely go to doctor. he will leave if u continue like this

Answer 2

It is common for a woman who has a new baby to be so drained from the baby that s*x is the last thing on their minds. I wasnt like that with s*x, but for some reason I had no desire to eat, which was weird. But, I do think you should talk to you doctor about it.

Answer 3

Do you and your man have intimacy in other ways?  I mean, do you have meaningful conversations, look into eachothers eyes, watch movies, hang out?  Does he help with the baby, or are you running around ragged doing all the feeding, changing, laundry, etc?  That makes a big difference in a woman's desire levels.  I would suggest you go talk to a psychotherapist on your own first, to find out what your issues with s*x are and then, if the problem involves your man directly, ask him to go to couple's therapy.

Congratulations on your baby and make sure to take good physical, mental and spiritual care of yourself!  Good luck.

Answer 4

are u sure that u are not depessed?Some times when people are depressed there s*x drive suffers to. Are u on any meds at all?Some meds s***w up the s*x drive to!Chat with your dr and see what wrong they should be able to tell u more!

Answer 5

Sounds like depression and yes you should talk about with your doctor, especially if you want to keep this relationship and your own metal health.  

Answer 6

Your hormones may just be off since you recently had a baby. I am at the other end of the spectrum. I just had a baby 3 months ago and I seem to always be in the mood. I would talk to your doctor about it if it concerns you.

Best wishes & take care!