Why is this so difficult?!?

Question

ok so i'm 16 and i'd say my mom and i have a fairly good relationship.

this summer, i've decided to disband from my entire group of friends, and so me and my mother have been spending a sickening deal of time together.

so here's the thing...i'm g*y.

and i've had like 5 girlfriends- it's a well known fact already.

it seems the only person i'm still in the closet to is my mother.

i know that once i tell her, it'll be off my chest, and of course she'll support me.

however...she has this fairy-tale vision of me walking down the aisle with a handsome, well-endowed chiseled man.

and, us getting to know each other this summer (we haven't really been close until now) she kind of feels like she knows me, but there's this whole other layer to it you know?

i'm just gonna tell her straight up...

what do u think?

Answer 1

She's your mom...she probably already has an idea..but yes, you should tell her.

Answer 2

I was so worried about coming out to my father.  I had visions of him killing me, literally.  So, I wrote him a note...and my step-mom read it to him while I was miles away at my house lol...his response was, "I've always known..."  

After I told him, I was COMPLETELY out...did he have visions of me with a beautiful wife and children...yeah, but he said is supports me no matter what...lol, well, so long as I'm not making out with a guy on his couch.  

When you tell her, make sure she knows that you love her!  That's very important!  If you know she will support you, it will be a breeze...It's not about her visions of your future...it's about yours!  Good Luck!  

Answer 3

I'd say, that is the best way to go.  Be straight w/ her.  No beating around the bush. Yall have a great relationship, and you already know she will support you no matter what.  Yea, she may be a little hurt at the fact that you wont bein walking down the aisle with her dream son-in-law, but the truth will be exposed sooner or later.  So better sooner, before she accidentally comes across it herself some how.  Then she may feel hurt by believing, that as close as yall are, you were still keeping a secret from her.  

Answer 4

I think your idea is a fine one.  Just tell her.

Answer 5

She's your mother, and it sounds like you two are close. I say tell her. And she may get judgmental at first, but try not to jump down her throat...right away at least. It's a big thing for a parent to hear and she'll need some time to adjust, since she has big dreams for you and all, lol. But |t sounds like you'll be okay. And if she isn't okay with it, then she can deal with it, its your life, and your choice. You should be proud to have that kind of courage!

Answer 6

The Mom usually always knows already. After you tell her, all bets are she will say DUH.

Answer 7

definately tell her, it will be off ur chest and ull feel more comfortable, i mean shell probably be a bit shocked at first like?? ya know wheres this coming from but shell soon come to her senses, and shell always love you no matter what, teh sooner u tell her teh sooner u feel better.

godluck!

Answer 8

I'm a mom of a 16 year old and no matter what i would want him to be happy so parents really don't want a fairy tale the want the children too be happy and be themselves. so tell  your mom she might just surprise you

Answer 9

I think it's great you have a supportive mother, and I think you should get it off your chest already. Her fairy tales for your life are obsolete, tell her that she should be happy for whomever you settle down and decide to share your life with, whether it be a man or a woman.

Good luck!

Answer 10

If your relationship with your mom is that good (and at 16 that's terrifically amazing!) then I say tell her.  She's probably worried about whatever latest teen scare is on the news more than who you walk down the aisle with.  

Who knows?  It might be a beautiful, well endowed chiseled woman!

The bottom line is, she's your mom.  She loves you.

Answer 11

I think that you should just tell her. If you and her are really close then shes bound to accept it. Also you said yourself that she'll support you so why not go for it. If she doesn't like it, i'm sure she will still love you just as much and she will eventually have a fairy-tale vision of you walking down the aisle with some beautiful woman.

Answer 12

Yeah I think it's better now than later. She's your mother and she will continue to love you no matter what.    

Answer 13

Good Luck, the hardest thing is to come out to your parents, once it is done you will be able to be you

Answer 14

As long as you're sure that she'll support you and not throw you out into the street, then you should tell her.

But if you think that she won't be able to handle or accept it, and you still depend on her for financial support, you should wait.

Sweetie, just make sure you have a back-up plan in case things don't go well. But if they do, then you'll be happy that you did it. And the weight will be lifted off of your shoulders.

Good luck. =)

Answer 15

I would say don't do it right away. Do it when your ready/comfortable

I came out to my mom when I was in high school and she basically said "thats nice but I dont want to hear about it"

Answer 16

She will appriciate you telling her. She probably will laugh at you and tell you that she already knew.  

Answer 17

Just tell her straight out...you have no control over how she will reacts to it.Why worry about something that you have no control over. For the most part, mothers are more accepting of their son being g*y. It is the fathers that have a difficult time adjusting to reality. You cannot change who you are and that is the part that father have problems with. It is easier for people to try to change others than to chane themselves...after all it hurts to change and people don't like that.  

  

Answer 18

Just tell her. It may be a hard conversation, but once you get through it, things between the two of you will most likely be tons better. When it comes down to it, fairy-tale versions aside, parents just want their kids to be happy.  

Answer 19

when i came out to my mom, she told me and said she always knew since i was little. it is still odd with my mom and im in my 20s

good luck